Getting To Know Your Partner

How well do you know your boyfriend? Really know him. It’s not just how he likes his coffee or his back scratched. Not just that fact that he’s big on dancing and hates being interrupted during gaming. You may think you two are really tight with each other because you share your bed, bodies and breakfast, but intimacy is not just about physical or sexual contact. To really get to know your boyfriend it helps to understand his deepest fears, biggest passions, long-term goals, and life priorities – what he wants and values most for now and in the future. How do you go about getting this crucial info without making him feel he’s being interrogated? There are few ways to get know your partner closer. You can spend lot of times with him, spying him every way, share your interest and do something together or you can wait your whole life to get know him. Why you want to take so much times to know him while you can play some game to predict what type of man he is.

You can use the following ploys to get him to reveal his inner self. Be prepared though, he might want to turn the tables on you to make sure he’s got a handle on where you’re coming from too! Read more

How to Deal with Daily Life Crisis…

No matter what age, every single person live in this world have their own problem from children to grandma or from poor to rich. It’s a liar to say ‘I Have No Problem’, it just the way each individual overcome their problem. Big issue can become simple if you can manage it in proper manner without distracting your daily routine as some people having problem dealing with life crisis because they think it’s a bad luck. When it’s come bad day, it doesn’t just rain, it buckets down. By that, you need to bring umbrella wherever you go & don’t forget to bring extra umbrella in case somebody need it.

You feel like the world’s closing in on you? Like nothing seems to be going your way? Bet one of my friend can relate. It may look like the biggest dilemma in her life is which designer handbag to take to lunch at the Ivy but, the truth is, she’s going through a rough patch and the cracks are starting to show. Since broken up with hubby after 5 years married, Mary (not a real name) struggled to make a splash in the dating pool while ex-hubby moving at lightning speed with new hot girl in town. Her life become chaos; go clubbing almost every weekend, drink & drunk, children are not manage & send to grandma house, the work efficiency loss & work performance had reduced. She once was very stylist mum with good looking appearance now become unmanageable person with bad attitude. You might be run from the problem but it’s never solved and it will hunt you all the time because you still think about it. Read more

Marriage Fail – Why There’s Broken Relationship

When it comes to relationship matter, no matter how genius a person is, most of them fail to

find the best solution to save the relation. Why? Why most of the relationship that was built because of loves never ends with good ending & happiness? Most of it happens to the married couples and some of them just ignore it. Is it because of modern lifestyles or our peoples already used to the divorce which means nothing to the society? There’re lot of reasons given by few couples that facing this problems saying that maybe there’s no more chemistry between them or married too fast or too young causing the divorces.

Nowadays, it very common to hear cheating spouses. And who’s to blame? And maybe you also face the same problem with or without your consciousness. Were there any signs shows that your partner turns over you? Of course you can see the sign if you’re not the one who cheat, right? So, how about it? What are you going to do? Whether they showed signs or not is inconsequential. Like anyone who has been hit with an unpleasant truth, you keep asking yourself one question: Why? And why lots of people out they still want to do it? And why even though you can save your relationship, you choose not to. Read more

5 Signs to Know If He Really Sincere Or Just Sleaze Ball?

“Have we met before?” “Your lips look lonely – let me introduce them to mine.” “Your smile is so stunning I need my sunglasses!” What do you think when a guy met you at the first time and asking you such questions? Of course he’s trying to attract your attention but does he really mean it or just trying to check on you? When it comes to pick-up lines most guys are about as original and subtle as a Hollywood actions flick. After all you know that they regardless of what they say what they really mean is “I like the look of you and want to get know you better.” But once they break the ice and engage you in some full frontal talking, how how do you know their real attention? You don’t want to waste your night hanging out with a guy whose only plan is to get you into bed then exit your life forever. Equally, if you presume that every single man you meet just wants a quickie you might give the potential love of your life the brush off – not realizing that he is the real deal. To help you separate the givers from the takers and fakers, here’s what your radar needs to pick up:-  

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Know Your Man Sensitivity – 8 Ways That Can Hurt a Man’s Feeling

Sometimes he ignore your present and sometimes he don’t response when you asking the question. He prefer to quite or change the topic every time you try to talk to him. You thought that you had make a mistake and make he angry but there’s something else playing in his mind. He think about your questions whether it’s necessary to answer or not…He just worry that he might hurt your feeling, so he just trying to think the best answer to tell you. He knew women’s sensitivity. How about you? Do you know that he got the sensitive side too? Do you know without you notice your word already hurt his feeling? It stands to reason that men whose bravado is most virulent, whose braggadocio enters the room shortly before they do, are probably those over-compensating for their insecurities. Most men are somewhat less – but not entirely – insecure. Men also wounded by the odd unintentional barb slung our way by a girlfriend or wife. As is so often the case with the respective genders, the key difference is communication. A hurt woman will immediately tell her partner how she feels and why she feels that way.

In most cases with a soothing preface where it is pointed out that she realizes the affront was not premeditated. Men, on the other hand, are far quicker to dismiss their own feelings as being so trivial as to not warrant comment. Yet they hurt like lime juice on a paper cut. Ouch. Overwhelmingly, there is no malice on the part of men’s partners. It’s mainly men own baggage that causes the emotional bruising. That said, a contusion by any other name…..With this in mind, it’s time to strap your man to the psychoanalyst’s couch and reveal nine ways in which he can be unintentionally hurt.

Hurt #1 The L Word           

Aside from “You look fat”, what three other little words can make or break a relationship? Yes, you guessed it – “I Love You.” Couples agonize over when to introduce this phrase. Many women have been on the receiving end of a non-committal “I think you’re special too”, having had the guts to utter it. Not much fun, is it? Although they may well feel it, men have trouble articulating this amorous sentiment so when yours does, echo your feelings. every time. Should  an “I love you” not be reciprocated, the male psyche immediately goes into worst-case scenario mode. Trust me on this. He needs affirmation as much as you do, perhaps more so if he initiated the exchange. Without this he may begin to doubt your feelings for him – yes, once is all it takes – and the smothering will begin. You’ll back off, he’ll crowd you even more and you’ll be stuck with a situation that could have been prevented by a single “me too”.

Hurt #2 Baldness is Not Cute

Let’s knock this one on its aesthetically-challenged head once and for all. If a man asks you if he has put on weight or whether that clump of shoulder hair is a turn-off, the correct and only answer is no. Such questions stem from a perceived lack of quality in the physical department, so plug the cracks with a denial and nothing more. Do not acknowledge whatever he may referring to with “Your love handles give me something to hold onto” or “ But your furriness is adorable!” Although you may be sincere in these statements, they will be like hurled pebbles against the fragile stained glass mosaic that is his ego. While we’re in this area, let’s briefly discuss the hair on his head. No matter how phrase it, any observation that involves the words, “receding”, “thinning” or heaven forbid, “balding” will hit him like a lorry. Prefacing it with “it doesn’t matter to me if you’re….” will not count for squat. Move on to another subject that is not Rogaine.

Hurt #3 The Third Person

Compare to men, women are far more open with their friends when it comes to discussing relationships and partners. More power to you for this – and don’t think we aren’t just a little envious. Especially when the sum total of male conversations of this ilk usually comprise no more than, “How’s the missus?” and “Good, thanks.” The problem is, women can become so used to discussing us that they forget we’re in the room. This is particularly evident a dinner parties or meals shared with two or more couples. A peculiar trait will somehow arise in conversation. Only to be followed shortly by, “Oh, Kevin does the same thing all the time” and “Really? I thought my Andrew was the only one and that I’d married a weirdo!” Cue hysterical laughing and detailed examination of the napery from those packing a scrotum.

As comfortable as you may be sharing the details of your love life with your gal pals, the man in your life doesn’t feel he knows them this well, let alone the men in their lives. So how to know when you’re reaching dangerous territory? The first time you refer to him in the third person – as in “he” – beware because you’re standing on the edge of a precipice of revelation he may soon be tumbling down head first.  

Hurt #4 For Your Amusement

This is the tricky one as it’s only natural to want to show off your charismatic and gregarious man. You’re just justifiably proud that he can captivate a room and create a festive atmosphere with a few well-chosen bon mots. The flipside to this extroverted coin however is when he feels like you’re the organ grinder and he’s the performing monkey. He’ll tell that hilarious story about the conjoined twins and the tub of baby oil if and when he feels like it. Or better still if he believes it’s appropriate. He doesn’t need you to put him in the spotlight like that. Like all of the categories in this article, your intentions may be coming from a sweet-as-treacle place, but no one enjoys being routinely put on the spot to entertain.

Hurt #5 Out Of Your Depth

Cliches only reach this exalted status because they often hold true and one of the best in the male domain is that we like fixing stuff around the house. Hardwired into the male psyche, it’s something that we’re supposed to be able to do. What’ more, as many of us work in a world of intangible results displayed on spreadsheets, the chance to actually physically remedy a situation is often grabbed. It makes us feel, well, manly.

Of course, some of us are better than others when a wrench, hammer or bracket is required, but please don’t let a failure or three dissuade you from allowing him to attempt the role of handyman. Yes, a professional may have been required on previous occasions to repair your man’s work, but that doesn’t mean that will be the case next time around. This is one of those tasks we take genuine pride in, so please don’t suggest we’re automatically out of our depth.

Hurt #6 Is That What You’re Wearing 

Seriously, how would you feel your man asked this question. Okay, he might be not the fashion-forward as you are. Hell, we may even be fashion-backward but surely there are gentler ways to offer constructive criticism. If, for example, he emerges as a symphony in acid wash, suggest an alternative item – not the singular – with “I think you look so much cuter…” It’s all about inflating his self-esteem through style. Salvage his outfit with one addition instead of dressing him from top to toe while hinting he wouldn’t know couture if Giorgio Armani was mugging him. Yes, you have a better eye for chic but pointing it out this way ain’t gonna win you any friends. Criticizing his sense of style, then making him over in his entirety is a dangerous practice as he will never develop a sense of style and pretty soon you’ll be his dresser. At which point it’ll feel like you’re mothering him. The choice is yours. 

Hurt #7 Going All Artsy-Fartsy

Men are simple creatures with mostly simple tastes and we know it. For most of the men, the definition of a good film ca be measured in car chases and glimpses of Jessica Alba’s midriff. However, although we may be decidedly low-rent and proud of it, this is a choice  that they make – not a measure of their intelligence. Being told that we just wont “get” an art house film or novel involving sophisticated and abstract spiritual complexities has us wondering how little you think of men’s intellect.

Hurt #8 Money’s Too Tight Too Mention

Finally, in addition to being the home handyman, another role that’s programmed into men from birth is that of financial provider. Yes, you may earn more than him. Yes, you may split expenses down the middle. But somewhere deep in his wallet, he has secretly calculated that he could support you if ever the need arose. Misguided and ancient as this may be, this role is a potent source of self-worth for many men.

Consequently, when you say something like “I just don’t think we can afford a new car or holiday this year”, some men interpret this as an “if only you earned more” criticism. Which is so isn’t. This is his issue to deal with on his own and no behavior modification on your part is required. Like all the topics covered here, it’s simply a matter of awareness. 

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