What’s make us can’t do what we really want to do? What’s limiting your life? Do you ever think that fear always stop you from doing and achieve your dream? Scared of what other people might think? Afraid of fail and don’t have another change? Everyone have their own fear, kind of feeling interior that can be interpreted in many ways. It evokes strong physical reaction – like heart rate, shaking, nausea and sometimes even crying. How many times you have to forget about man/job/life of your dream? How many times you try to fight fear and get rid of it? Throw it down for people to see – which is sign of weakness. Lack of knowledge, fear is main factor that holding you back from reaching your potential in any aspect of life. We all knew that nothing we can do with fear inside us – fear of failure and fear of success.

Do you ever ask yourself, why do you get scared sometimes? Is it because you care? Care about things that might happen to you when you take one significant step forward. Either you’re afraid everything will go horribly wrong and come crashing down around you, or anxious about how you’ll be viewed if you actually do accomplish something spectacular and what might be expected once you’ve set the bar. Feel tired of being scared every time you want to take one significant step forward into your dream? Hard to believe even one small thing or a tiny word can make you half out of mind? Relax your mind, find your courage, vanish your fear and take your challenge. Here’s some tips how to kick out fear, max your potential and let the true you shine, starting now.

Fear factor #1: Terrified of getting heartbroken.

The most terrifying experience for all of us is get hurt and gets hurt again until it come to a level where we can’t accept new people in our life because afraid of getting burnt again. We all knew there’s no point to escape or hiding from new relationship, but sometimes the way we think normally influence by past experiences. It’s crazy to be scared of new relationship because of past experience. Why don’t give yourself a chance to start one more time? I believe that if we focusing on positive thing and ready to face fear, afraid of getting heartbroken are not a big deal because we already know first-hand that we can, and will, recover.

So, why must pretend like it is the end of the world? Maybe it’s not easy to start everything all over again after went through many tough time, but if you focusing all your energy into positive – think that you can learn from the failure, remind yourself that you deserve to be in a great relationship and have the expectation that’s exactly what you’ll get, I believe you don’t have to do many things to get recover soon. The point is, never ever wasting your time thinking how cruel this world is or you won’t success in any other relationship or you may hurt again and again. Remember, broken heart will make people out of control and devastating – to survive, only you know what key to use to get over it and come out wiser and stronger. Maybe it need times to fully heal – might be a week, a month or a year, but no matter how deep is the wound, as long as you dare to take one step forward you’ll be fine and just be fabulous again.

Fear Factor #2: Scared of taking the next step in relationship

Do you ever felt insecure, confusing or don’t know what to do when it’s time to make one big decision in your relationship? Relationships always come with cross roads – whether to break up, stay together or let’s time to make a judgement. Why asking yourself so much question? You already have the answer, but sometimes you want something that can be a warranty your relationship will heading into your dream castle. Am I right? Or you’re feeling so comfortable or afraid of the unknown to make a break. Still don’t know what to do?

Sometimes, when it comes into desperate solution, people always use their instinct to feel if there’s something right or wrong happen in their relationship. “I felt it in my gut.” But, do you? How much you believe what you think is right? If you’re not sure how powerful your instinct is or you just feel it in the pit of your stomach, means that what you felt is fear. Hard to believe? Now it’s a time to make up your mind. If it’s truly fear hunting you, you need to find out where the fear originated from? Is it from you, people around you or your surrounding? Whatever might be the causes, try to find the source as soon as possible. The good thing you can do is trying talk to someone close to you – friends or somebody you can trust and comfortable with as often as you wish. People who know you intimately and close to you usually able to see sense in a situation you’re freaking out over. The more you share, the less your burden – at lease, there’s someone staying beside you, encouraging you and help to work out a strategy for the situation.

Fear Factor #3: Scared of what others think

The conclusion is us as humans always care about things happen around us especially when it comes into evaluation. It’s our ingrained needs is for approval. So, every time you do something you can’t wait to see what people’s responses and start to ask yourself with so many questions. It’s totally hard to accept others comment, but still got a secret thrill when one commented was given to you. It’s kind of fear that always effect at whatever things we do because we need to consider many things before make a decision. We can say that, there’s a good and bad things to be feared. Domonique Bertolucci, a life coach and the author of Your Best Life say, “Developing a sense of belief in yourself that isn’t depending on anybody else’s approval will mean you can face so many of your fears head-on.”

The lesson is, trying to understand that fear is normal and then use it to motivate (instead of destroy) you. “So many people use fear as an excuse for not doing something. It’s just a feeling – it has no impact on your actions unless you choose to give it power,” says Bertolucci.

Fear Factor #4: Worried can’t cope with bigger responsibility

You’re enthusiastic, capable and totally switch on employee. But when a great opportunity for promotion came up at your company, you begin to let fear creep in. You knew it was the perfect progression for you and you’re about ready for the application. But then, you start to think if you’re the right person or do you really applicable for the position? You afraid what if you didn’t get it? What your colleague will say about you if they know? You must be mortified. Its sounds crazy to question your own capability, but fear often make people think in different way than what they really want to do.

Fear of failing is an obvious one, but fear of success can be just as debilitating. You worry if you can’t cope with new responsibility and where this job will bring you. Think too much sometimes give pressure to us and let us to make wrong decision. You can eliminate this scary feeling as long as you know what you want and what you can do. You only need to stay on your courage, committed with things you do and doing the best you can. Nothing wrong with put more trust in yourself because you know how far you can go. If you do what you suppose to do, then there’ll be no regrets. Remember: You wouldn’t have been hired if your employer didn’t think you could cut it.

Fear Factor #5: Afraid of trying new risky things

How about when you think of your own business? It generally means hard work, long hours and years before you see a financial result. But that doesn’t mean you have to bin the idea and work at a job you hate. You’ve been planned for so many years before you decide to make changes so if you let the thought of failure hold you back, then what you’d sacrificed all this time didn’t give any meaning. So, how do want to face your fear and be successfully?

Now, you’re in dilemma – whether want to go for your dream or just let go them. However in this crucial time, you will make a brilliant decision after all. This is a situation where fear can make you smarter and stronger. If you sure that’s what you really want to do and better future is waiting for you, why don’t you try to find what’s things that can stop your dream. Ask yourself why you’re afraid. How you want to handle the worse situation when it happens to you? Are you ready to face the difficulty with all your heart? Ok, now you’re prepared, use that fear to motivate yourself into working your hardest to not let it happen. Fight your fear by doing your best. Believe that you can do as long as you work hard for it. Nothing can stop you even fear. You may never get over that fear, but if you’re willing to take the risk and are comfortable with the consequences, there shouldn’t be anything stopping you.