You’re smart, beautiful and sexy, but why are you still single? There are so many guys around you but none of them can take your heart away. You just can’t stop asking yourself the same question every time you saw all your friends one by one finding their Mr Right, get married and lives happily. But, why do you still feel inadequate when it comes to finding a soul mate? There are guy admiring you and your friends agree that he’s the good guy and maybe you could try getting to know him. Okay, you go for the date and things goes very well but after you going back home, having showered and rethink about the date, you finding out yourself are not happy and he’s not the guy you’re looking for. Why? He’s good, charming, have a personality and know how to tackle your mood – and you’re wonderful, but there’s something wrong and missing. And of course, you’re not sure whether it’s come from you or him because the same thing happens every time you’re trying to know someone. Wondering why love is so hard to find? If you want to know the reasons, keep reading!

Single #1 “Time and tide wait for no men”

For single women, this phrase sounds familiar right? And I’m sure career women agree that time is so important in their life and looking for love needs far more time and energy acquiring money and material possessions. These days, women are more independent, dare to take challenge and active working outside rather than sit at home doing girls stuff or waiting for Mr Charming take them away. Nowadays, they’re so busy compete with men in their career and almost in everything to support their life, making money and be successful without holding into men arms. This modern thought make women choose to work hard and neglect their social life most of the time. But does it worth?

Although you proud about your career and life you have but when you’re tired or want to share your success, and look around to realized the emptiness around you and don’t have a fulfilling love life. Now, you blame fate for being so cruel? Actually, it’s nothing to do with fate or others but yourself – how you see the relationship in your point of view. You might think that no man out there was worth your time. You want a relationship that comes with everything else in life and don’t want to give up all your love about being single. In short, you only see love in negative side and don’t make an effort to work on it. Love needs patience and you can’t insist on it because you can’t make love happen for you, but you can make certain that if it wants to happen, you aren’t standing in its way.

Single #2 No men are good enough

One of the great excuse singles give for their status is that there are no good ways to meet people. By giving this as reasons, they don’t have to take responsibility for being single. In other words, singles is try to protect themselves from falling in love – fear of being rejected and afraid to face any obstacles or failure in love life. Besides that, they use the same excuse to keep their hope alive. This makes them feel safe staying in their single life and the excitement of looking. But, why is that? Some people just easily influence by others bad experience in relationship and every single time they think or plan to meet someone, this idea of fears and dangers stopping them from trying a new path of their life. So, how about you? Do you let yourself stay in loneliness and emptiness or trying to take one step closer to fill the void in your life?

There are no excuses if you’re genuinely interested in finding ways to meet people and nothing is impossible if you want to try and take the challenge. Don’t afraid to face failure because we learn and live base on experiences. Try to mix with variety of people and do whatever you always wanted to but don’t force yourself into something you’re not enjoy and makes yourself regret in future. Just let your life flow naturally and choose a manageable, comfortable pace for yourself. Make yourself enjoying your life, relax and have some fun. That way you will see how wonderful your life is and open up you heart to explore new avenues, you have no idea what you may discover.

Single #3 High expectations

Every person has their own standard in finding their soul mate. Most single women today put too high expectation on a guy who eligible to stand beside them. Actually there’s nothing wrong looking for the right person with high standards because it’s all about our own happiness. Maybe people think that your action is unrealistic make you hard in finding a partner, but nothing is more wonderful than successfully meeting someone that you’ve been dreaming all this while. Maybe your friends will give you an advice to make you lower your standards, but don’t deceive by their idea. Your love searching never ends as long as you work on it and know your own boundaries because there’s nothing possible in finding guy of our dreams no matter how long or hard it will take.

There are a good part and bad part about being aiming too high because sometimes what we always wanted for not always right and something that we never expected at all may come to our life unconsciously surprising us. It’s all about what we want to get, so whatever the result, we’re satisfied. So rather than lowering your standards or taking risk waiting for perfect guy come to your life, the best way is figure out what you really want and make that your standard. Set yourself some specific goals – what you really want in a relationship and believes that you will achieve it one day. To every single women our there, don’t despair if you still not finding the right person to share your love. Keep on living your life and the right man will fall right in your path.

Single #4 Choose and pick concept

Some women are so desperate of being single plus pressure from their friends, family and life. In this dishevelment, you will take the easies way to settle everything in a second so you don’t have to take the responsibilities. When this idea had conquer you mind, you’re not able to say no at the right moment and choose to end up in a relationship – or a series of relationships – that are nice, but not great. It’s like you using others to fulfill your emptiness – at least there’s someone you can call “baby”! Expert calls this “Better Than Nothing” relationships. The bad things about BTN relationships is people not falling in love but only staying in love because they need them to fulfill their love life. Sound ridiculous but it’s true because they already makes mistake by falling into the wrong person and single have had this kind of experience.

A BTN is a relationship that drags on and on, and has a low probability of surviving. This type of relationship is dangerous for long term relationship or if you’re looking for intimate connection because they become blockage on the journey to finding true love. In the end, in order to find out why you’re still single, take a realistic look at yourself! Maybe you think that you’re so wonderful and you deserve someone “perfect”, but the truth is not always what you think. Boost yourself and start by trying to find out your major deficits and put an effort to correct them and open you mind wider, so you can see yourself and love in other perceptions. As long as we try to make ourselves more desirable as a partner, you won’t be blocking your path to achieving coupledom.