Wondering why your man dumped you at the middle of the enthusiasm and felicity? You didn’t felt of making any fault when he suddenly surprising you by just blurts out “It’s over” during your usual meet without felling guilty or showing any contrition for the sudden break-up. What a man? While you’re still shocked knowing that he want to end up the relationship, he add your distress by telling you that he’s not the right guy for you. And before you can speak any words, he add more hurtful lines: “I’m not good enough for you”, “It’s not your fault, it’s mine”, “I don’t want o ruin our friendship”’ or “I never meant to hurt you, but….”. Just because you felt so angry, sad, disappointed and hurt broken, you can barely stop your tears falling down and sprint from him without look back for once and far more to think does he speak the truth or not. But once you get back home and calm down, then the ideas he might hiding the real reasons of leaving you knocking up on your mind.

Do you think he broke-up with you because all the reasons he’d told you? Does men talk really frankly and straight when it’s coming up into emotions? After all the time, energy and tenderness you give to the relationship it has just imploded and you have no real idea why. So, before you blame yourself or hardly think why things go wrong or beat yourself up for being a total failure in love – go through his behaviour with a fine toothed comb. Believe it or not, there are only a few reasons why men dump women and most of them indicate his emotional issue, not yours. Girls, check it out! Guys, take a look! Happy reading!

Reason #1 He find out you’re not his dream girl.

He felt attracted with you and do everything to win your heart before. You thought that he’s crazy about loving you until he done so much stupid things at the time he wants to tackle your attentions. But once he gets you, he find out that you’re not the ideal person who he’s been looking for all this while. You’re not her – but don’t feel unworthy – no woman could ever measure up to his unrealistic ideal. He wants to find someone to fit his bill but he never give a try. So, he took a short cut by entering each relationship with his unhelpful wish list in his head.

As he got you in his arm and the relationship develops men may come to take their girlfriend’s appealing traits for granted and be more preoccupied with the ways their partner doesn’t meet their needs. It’s cruel and unfair because women in relationship are tend to take a positive approach, focusing on their partners, aware of his sensitivity and looking forward for bright future they will be. Why giving hope if he wasn’t sure about his feelings? There’re many other ways to screening the woman of his dreams, why needs to entering the heart and then cruelly broke them just because she doesn’t meet their needs? Is it because she doesn’t share his love of the arts or doesn’t cook as well as he does, so he thinks it’s not the signs she’s the right match? Ohhhh, gosh! When he says “It’s not you, it’s me”, believe in him! Any person who keeps up a misguided quest for total perfection in a partner is setting themselves up to never find true love. Well, he doesn’t deserve you, anyway. Why felt sad for someone who doesn’t see your quality and appreciate who you are? To me, better off with a man who is more emotionally evolved and mature, right?

Reason #2 He’s losing his interest in love

Maybe these are much better words to hear rather than saying that he’s actually lazy in love. He’s put his hand off while you’re work hard taking care of all the emotional housework in the relationship. There’s no more congeniality, conversation and romance in the relationship and he always does a runner as problems arise. He did nothing from giving efforts to maintain the relationship to taking any actions when problems encounter – arguing for most of unreasonable things which is only a small matter and can be solve if he’s trying to collaborate, compromise or having talks.

But, all he knows is adding more problems to both of you without doing his part and avoiding the responsibilities which is already his. And he’s not only pulled all the responsibilities into you, but hurting you emotionally at the same time. When the situations become uncontrollable, he’s see difference of the opinion as a sign that the two of you are just not compatible instead of realizing that every relationship requires a little work and a lot of communication and compromise if it is to deepen and last.

Reason #3 He’s not in love with you anymore or met someone else

This is usual phenomena where your partner leaving you because he found someone better in his life. Actually, meeting someone else is not the best reasons he dumped you – and he won’t did it if he really in love with you and see your relationship for something more meaningful and forever. This is really hurt because he didn’t tell you the real reason but make excuses: “I’m not ready to settle down” or “I need some time on my own”. But after a while you heard rumour that he’s not only launched himself back on the singles scene but he went straight from splitting up with you to asking another woman to go steady. Well, if he doesn’t want you anymore, it wasn’t needs a reason, right? Of course it’s hurt when your partner broke-up with you for someone else but don’t felt too sad. You should be grateful – he’s obviously got a roving eye which means that down the track he might have been unfaithful or been a serial flirt. Thanks to him! He just done you a big favour and save your future – now you’re free to find a guy worthy of your trust.

Reason #4 He’s not ready for commitment

We should alert to this type of guy who wants love but don’t want any commitment. This is because men often think when they have relationship with a specific girl means settling down, getting serious about life and no longer having as much fun or freedom to be spontaneous. So, when things get more serious and a girl asking for something likes moving in together or how far is the relationship, he might feel confronted or unsure about whether he’s ready to go that far yet. However, women have a different point of view about couple life and commitment in relationship. They see commitment is a way to enrich the intimacy, what they already have and share together and enjoy the ultimate in romance.

I think most of you heard or maybe some of you do experience about guys who ended the relationship because they just weren’t ready to settle down. If you had experience going out with commitment-phobic guy, you might know the signs which are so obvious from the beginning of the relationship. You can see things like not wanting to leave anything in your place, not wanting to plan ahead, preferring to keep our friends separate and talking about having sex with no string attached. To all girls out there, be alert and pay attentions to the signals and getting rid of men very early if they seemed to be serial bachelors. You deserved someone who loved you enough to include you in his future and never afraid of commitment and taking responsibilities.

Reason #5 He’s still in love with his ex-girlfriend

Although he never told you how was he felt after having broke-up with his ex, you can see that sometimes he talked about his past when he still with her. Sometimes, the ideas he might still in love with his ex cross into your mind but you deny it because you afraid your instinct is right. Now you realized what you felt before – the whole time you’ve been together you knew deep down that he wasn’t over her. You can saw his expressions and he looks excited every time he talked about her way – intimately detailing everything from how she put her gloss on lips to her favourite foods and how was her face look like when she’s getting angry. I think that was the obvious clues to show you she’s still the one and it’s possible for you to take her place at least for this moment and even a blind people can feel it.

If you still unsure, pay attention to his emotional issues and when he bring you into relationship matters – how he sometimes don’t understand women - what does we needs to keep the relationship alive – or unintentionally talk about why she betray him and did the dirty on him. If he continuously brings the same issues into the conversation, for sure he’s still attached to the relationship. Maybe that was his first love and that bad experience leave him a deep wounded which challenge his pride or his ego as a man so he hadn’t recovered from the pain and embarrassment. When he still living in the past, he’s not aware you’re around, neglected you as her new girlfriend and indirectly giving a big impact to the relationship. You should realize that, the more he talked about his past means he’s not ready for new romance. Next time find someone who always put your love at the front and the one who is not looked back to his previous relationship other than giving full attention on you and the new relationship. That’s better!

Reason #6 He’s having a different lifestyle

…or in other words we can say that he’s from a different world. We didn’t say about you both can’t accommodate between you, but the way life brings you sometimes really make the journey so difficult especially when you both coming from a different background. It’s not about you both getting together because of non-similarity, of course you does. If not then why you can get together, right? Differences in a relationship can make for an exciting and interesting romantic playing field but if they are too profound, over time they may start to grate or get in the way of true love.

You both love each other and having some chemistry which make you attracted to each other, but when it’s come to get fitted to each others life, things seemed doesn’t work and both of you wasn’t comfortable with the situation. And each time it happens, it slowly develops a gap between you. After sometimes when things become harder and no more interest to share, the feelings may change especially when the situations won’t let him to continue or people around him make he change his mind, everything is possible. However, you know the exact key he want to split up – you were too different to ever make the romance last. No matter what reasons he gave you to cover, you can see the truth because you felt the same way, right? He’s no longer comfortable with you.

Reason #7 He feel depressed

He dumped you doesn’t mean he’s guilty and responsible to what happens; the reason might be come from you. Take a look to your own behaviour before you blame him for leaving you. Were you trying to hard to make the relationship work? Then you probably pressured him. Did you text or call all day? Maybe you seemed suffocating, desperate and pushy. Or maybe you give too much attention until he’s losing a space to breath. It’s ok when you feel jealous sometimes to show that you care, but if it’s over the boundaries, he might felt uncomfortable. If you treated him like a 5 years old boy – dictate everything from what he ate and wore to what the best hair cut he should take, sooner or later he was bound to want to assert himself again which may have meant getting rid of you.

If you think you’re fair enough or did the right thing all this while, it’s better if you take a look once again. Maybe you didn’t realize you just came on to strong and scared him off. He might not tell you now, but men have their own limitation - when the limit was over you‘ll never get other chance to improve yourself. So, while there’s still a time, do something about your behaviour and take a different approach in your love life. Show him you’re independent women, matured and understanding. Give him breathing space and treat him not more than he supposed to get, then he’ll be the one making excuses to stick by your side.