Some relationship doesn’t run smoothly as we wish it suppose to be. Of course when you choose to love someone, you hope for something more than just couple. Looking for lasting love, someone who gives hope in the future, sharing life together and always stay beside you in happy and hard time. You use to share so many interests and future dreams. Now about the only thing is the air you both breathe. Where’s all the love gone? Your heart doesn’t beat faster like before and every time you meet nothing much you can talk about. In cases like these, deciding to break up is easy.

But why? Do you really have the right reason to leave the one you’ve been choose to be your soul mate? If only it was always so easy. In reality, relationships are like most things in life, threaded through with imperfection. You still laugh at most of his bad jokes, still come over all hot and bothered when he close to you and still feel twinge of jealousy when he looks to other girls. Yet you find yourself questioning the relationship simply because it isn’t perfect, whatever that means. No matter how deep is your love, how hard you try, or how special is he to you – sound perfect, but sometimes love is unpredictable - you can’t see what is going wrong, and suddenly that loves turn into unexpected hatred.

People often make mistakes when they decide to break up with their love one without knowing what exactly the reason why. Lots of confusing somehow makes them do not realized somewhere deep inside their heart, there’s still lot of love. So, before you quit that relationship, remember, it won’t come back to you as easy as you throwing it away from your life. Before it’s too late, think wisely – “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone” – could apply to you.

Reason #1 No more congeniality and passion?

Sounds familiar? We often heard this kind of lament and it’s very famous used by couples who choose to break up rather than save their relationship. When the relationship reaches certain level, most of couples think they don’t have to put any more effort to improve their relationship. You think the stability have power to maintain the relationship? Sorry..you’re wrong! Why the passion gone? As time goes by, you’re less care about your partner, you feel different towards him and you find that there’s no more similarity between you and him.

Now, you might be think your relationship begin without love but might be lust. How you can be very sure? But, you don’t realize what happen around you every day gives strong effect to both you. Busy at work, late for every dinner and cancelled anniversary holiday would all become the norm. It’s all about your life and his life – the routines become problem when each other realize there’s no more congeniality and passion when they spend time together. Yet the numbers of couples that break up because they no longer having great times together, talks to each, shares the happiness and sadness or even fantasizing about their partner is astronomical. If there’s absolutely no spark whatsoever, when you’re kissing with some enthusiasm, then sure, it might be time to go your separate ways. After all who wants to settle for a platonic companionship like this unless you’re too old?

But, why have to make hurry decision if you still feel that spark in your heart? If everything about the relationship is ideal, you should think long and hard before you choose to leave him. It’s not easy to find someone who really loves you and care about you and you’re comfortable with. Why do you have to create reason just to fulfill your sex life? You still can consider ways to add a bit of spice to your sex life instead. Remind yourself how lucky you are to have someone like him in the first place. Gratitude is the best aphrodisiac.

Reason #2 Family, friends don’t like him?

Do you care what others think about you? Not sure? You probably care if you’ve been felt badly when your parents, friends or work colleagues comment about your daring tattoo, your efforts at work or even complaint how you dress up. When it comes to relationships, we’re just as vulnerable. You love and adore him, he’s perfect in your eyes, but everyone close to you never approves him. If the whole family opposed and no one of your friends says nice thing about him, of course, one day you will consider the possibility those leader jacket you’re wearing are blinding you to some serious problems.

Otherwise, just because the whole world isn’t in love with him like you are doesn’t mean he’s not the right person to love you. You think he’s not the one for you because you’re so impressionable in matters of the heart and very easy to be put off by the littlest thing. You don’t think twice about his bad habit before, but if your mother or best friend continually alludes to his poor table manners or shocking taste in clothes, their views may come to reinforce your own opinion. So, before you decide to ditch him, review back why you hook into him. Is it because you’re force to love him or because you’re really in love – accept who he is. Remember, no one is perfect! Maybe you should reflect why your parents don’t like him that much and your friends never give credit to him. Ask your mum and she might be says he’s not the best for you and your friends of course trying to add more story about him. But who cares? They might be jealous at you. Who knows? Are you happy with him? Does he treat you nice? If yes, what more? Even though what they’re saying is true, do you deign sacrifice your happiness and future for others contentment? It’s your future, your own life – no matter what people think or say about him; remember how deep his love for you.

Reason #3 He’s not goes beyond the limit of your expectation?

Love is always selfish. Range from husband to wife, mother to her children and following by the children to her/his lovers and interminable to next generation. Love what’s make the hierarchy of life full with variety beauty colour like miracle rainbows. We, human never satisfied with what we have, always looking for something more than just a beauty in eyes. In our childhood time, we’re solely bared to fairy tales, never ending story or beautiful love story. The furthest thing from our mind is the torrid love affairs that lie in store for us. Yet without even knowing it, our expectations of “true love” are most definitely shaped in these formative years.

Our imaginations for love start from untold prince charming replaced by the impossibly handsome and brave hero in all our favourite novels who in turn is replaced by the perfect male leads in Hollywood movies. As we grown up, we’re ready to star in our very own real-life romantic comedy, our expectations in terms of the calibre of boyfriend we want are so unrealistic, it’s actually amazing we ever deign to lower our standards and go out with anyone at all. But there’s a big difference between not liking a guy because he doesn’t live up to your expectations, and liking him, in spite of the fact. Chemistry is a funny thing. You go out on the date with this guy because he met all the criteria you’re looking for all this while. Yet here he’s not really the guy you dream for. He’s got that attraction but you still can’t see something special about him which can make you proud of him.

You feel that special feelings towards him and you sure about it. Then you think many times when he’s not the sort of guy you envisaged for yourself. But, it doesn’t mean you should throw him away and neglect your own feeling. Well, that’s really big mistake. Follow your heart girl and not your ego. True love never measure with how famous he is, what standard he hold or how powerful he’s going to be. The matter is his heart. It’s the only way to identify those qualities in a relationship that really matter. Besides, nobody is perfect, and you are not perfect as you think. Accept yourself gratefully, than you know how to accept others.

Reason #4 Maybe you find somebody much better?

You can’t stand up to when seeing someone else had a better partner than you are. You feel dissatisfaction, frustration, envy and restlessness – and this is called “Greener Pastures Syndrome”. This GPS syndrome often attacks people who’re never feel content with what they have. You’ve done so many times taking risks changing guy beside you with hope he’s better than the one you have now, only to discover a few later he is not? He’s might be everything for you but you can’t help thinking there’s somebody better than him out there. Why girl? How more time you have to chastise yourself for something you’re not sure about.

You choose to stay together, but you still looking for somebody better. If staying together doesn’t help you at all, maybe you should identify the problem at the first place. How much do you know about other people’s lives? Is it just about their favourite restaurant, holiday destination or perfume they wear to their private jet? No wonder you feel a lack. So, before you abandon him, ask yourself if you haven’t just been stricken with a bout of GPS. Beware, you may feel regret if he’s actually admired by every girls. Who’s going to bite her own finger? And if you did really like him, won’t you be kicking yourself if he’s not interested in your offer of a second chance?

Reason #5 You’ve had an argument?

None of the relationship in the world won’t faces problems and having argument even the best one. Maybe at first, everything goes smoothly as you getting to know each other deeper, there’s the conflict may arise. You might be shock for the first time but it doesn’t mean everything is over. You can get through that difficult time if you really love your partner and appreciate the relationship. It’s normal when two people together going through hard time and having arguments sometimes, or to just be in a bad mood – heck it’s even healthy! However, it’s certainly not a reason to announce melodramatically that you’ve made a terrible mistake and want to break up. Think how often your friends drive you nuts or family members make you feel angry all the time, but you still take their apologies. So, why not you learn to forgive your loves one?

Sometimes, we can’t control our emotions when we’re angry towards someone we love. There must be a reason why it’s so hard to hurt their feeling; it’s just like you betray yourself and the love you’ve been shower together. But as a human nothing much we can explain about feelings – it’s changing through time. You might be losing your temper during the fight but a few moments later you realize that you can’t control yourself and feeling guilty at the same time. At this crucial time, you should take a breath and calm down so both of you can talk in an appropriate manner.

In the end, relationships are really about give and take, compromise and seeing the other person’s point of view. They’re not about providing an outlet for venting our rage. Couple in love is belong to each other; treat one another with pure love is fair enough to maintain a lasting relationship.