When you have to put your feeling aside just to see your best friend find the happiness. He’s your best confidant and you have known each other for a few years and have shared meals, movies, hobbies and vacations. But for a while.your friendship lasted when he admitted that he has fallen in love with another girl.

Jealously starts to grow within you. You’ve felt jealous of his dates. You’ve been having very strong feelings of attraction and a desire for something more than friendship. Could it be that your feelings for him have grown into something more? You don’t know what to do. You know you want to continue spending time together- more time. But it’s getting hard. You fantasize about having more with this person and are beginning to feel like a jealous would-be partner. Do you pretend everything is the same? Do you start distancing yourself- hoping your feelings will go back to the way they were? Do you actually talk directly and honestly with your friend about how you feel?

In cruel twist of fate, suddenly your best friend girlfriend is sick and needs your help to donate your heart to her. Would you willing to make the biggest sacrifice just to see your best friend find happiness while you yourself face countless torment?

Just as all people are unique, so are the characteristics of their relationships with others. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this increasingly common dilemma. So, what are your options if this really happen to you? I want to do open discussion here as this story I watch from Indonesian movie HEART. Are you going to.

# ignores your feelings, keep your boundaries in check and pretend everything is status quo.

# begins to spend less time with your friend (crush) while seeking out new friendships to pursue and strengthen.

# continues the relationship with your own hidden agendas - a desire for romantic intimacy and the hope that the person will realize that they feel the same way.

# has an open and honest discussion with your friend regarding your new feelings for them.

Intimacy exists in all close relationships. It is the ability to be completely open and vulnerable to another without fear of harm or rejection. So, by definition, we cannot be intimate with another while hiding or denying our true feelings and needs to them.

The choice will always be yours. Choosing wisely is about really knowing the options, the consequences they bring and what will be best for you and your friend.