You always work hard and put a lots of effort to keep your relationship survives but keep end up with farewell. You’ve been hurt for many times, your man change to be self-centered, insincere and his love become faded. You just can’t find what exactly mistakes you’ve been done makes your relationship always stuck half way. Do you come on too strong, let men walk all over you or seem too eager to please? In order to find and keep love, we always make mistakes over and over without understanding what actually love needs to grown healthy. And sometimes, we didn’t realize that what we do to make better the relationship is actually the main reasons to failure. Whether you’re still finding for true love, in love or on your way to maintain your relationship, make sure you know what it needs and don’t’ – doing too much or too little will let you to broken heart again and again. Here are the most common romance habits that stand in the way of lasting love. Try to avoid them from start and your next relationship will be on your terms…

Mistake #1 You trying too hard to get over him

You want to own your man, so you try to do everything to impress him – watching his favorite movies, playing his game, eat what he likes and follow everything he says without giving any opinion. You never tell him what you like, never disagree with his decisions, you let him control your life; put yourself with no choice, you’re setting yourself up for a fall. Whether you sincere enough to love him or just pretend to win his heart - no matter what, relationship without honesty won’t go anyway. Be yourself! You can’t attract men heart for long time by acting to be someone else; reveal yourself, show him you have your own opinions, your real personality. If you want a lasting relationship, make sure your partner in love with the real you because one day he will know your true color.

Mistake #2 You conquer his life

Wherever he goes, you always there like his shadow – following him, wanted to know everything he do and what’s going on in his life. You want to show to the world that he belongs to you and only you. Do you think man like if you keeping him on a leash? The more you pull him, the more he try to untie himself. So, beware to keep yourself too possessive. If you did it continuously, it’s like you pushing him to dead end – no way out, put him into pressure to do what you’re doing. And relationship that won’t grow emotionally, giving bad effect for long term couples. One day, he may leave you to find someone less dominating, gives space where he needed and who can love healthier than you. Avoid this habit by love your partner in a healthy way – gives space for both of you, trust him and don’t let your emotion control over your mind. Think and put yourself in the real world – to do some effort you don’t have to follow anyway he goes just to show him you care. You just make him feel uncomfortable, and you look like guidance to him and he’s only a little boy. You just scary him!

Mistake #3 You falling for playboys

Love never picks who’s the right person to be loves – it comes unexpected and when you’re in love, you only see the good side of your partner. These types of guy always take advantages to woman who wanting for their loves very much – gives you everything without questions, take your heart into the sky and promises to be with you and love you forever. But it’s just words and doesn’t give any meaning to him – his target just to play around with you without involves love or any commitment. He leaves you when he felt bored without any explanations or any reasons. Don’t be trap by Casanova’s words – be matured and avoid hooking up for life with temporary pleasure but look for someone who you can bring back home and ready for taking responsibility.

Mistake #4 You indulgent him too much

It’s not the same thing whether you care about him or trying to be his life coach. You do all things he leave behind – clean up his dirty clothes, fulfill his ice-box with his favorite foods and tidying his messy room. You think by doing all those things he becomes yours forever and loves you more deeply, but you’re wrong. If you mothering your partner too much, it will gives bad effects for long term relationship. Problems occur when he can’t take care of his own life – and when the times for him to take responsibility comes, he complaining with thousand of excuse to avoid from doing his part. Instead of showing your love through mollycoddling, it’s better if you show and express your emotions verbally. Show him that you needs more attentions, so he will learn how to nature you.

Mistake #5 You love his looks stronger than your feelings

Every women looking for hot, sexy and handsome guy to date with hope he also like you as much as you crazy about him. Lucky you if you find one. That we say perfectness, but not all good looking guys are nice, smart or even a good lover. If you looking for lifetime partner, it’s better if you find someone who you can communicate with, show affection and stimulate your mind as well. Open your eyes and heart more widely because you can find more from normal guy besides those gorgeous guys. Try to chat and having fun with them, you’ll find that they’re more interesting and sensitive because they’re not at the centre of attention.

Mistake #6 You giving too much too soon

Love is blind. When love had conquered your heart and mind, nothing could stop you from doing crazy things. The signs are so obviously – you shower him with affection even though you’ve been dating for a week. You neglect your friends, spends most of your time with him, pick him up from work and not hesitate to lend him money. Show all your generosity without think whether he deserve it or not. Nothing wrong to show your love and care, but if you give too much too soon, no wonder if he take advantages from your kindness and use you for his own needs. Be careful girl! Don’t let him take over your life. By telling him everything about your past and gives so much trust too soon, will destroy the nature of the love. Take a break and slow down – let it grow naturally and smoothly. If you’re looking for something more seriously, don’t rush over it especially when you want to make decisions to sleep with him.

Mistake #7 You become too jealousy

It’s normal to have a feeling of jealousy. But if you won’t give him any chance to prove his loyalty it will become a big trouble for both of you. You can’t even accept if he talks to other women even though she only your best friend or your sister. You won’t let him to stay contact with his entire girlfriend and threaten to leave him if he does so. No man likes to be treating too tightly because it gives them more desire to leave you. To keep your relationship secure, try to have a nice talk with him. Tell him what makes you jealous but don’t make it like you desperately want him in your life. If he still giving too much attention to another woman, speak out your point clearly and boost his ego by bring out those problems into discussions.

Mistake #8 You always right

You never gives him any chance to says any words to defense himself when it’s comes to an argument or even a discussion about something that not too important. You always being the last person to end the conversation and you’re always right and of course your partner was wrong all the time. You make him feel emasculated, ignored, useless and railroaded. You always want to win in every situation, act like you know everything, pull him down and make him feel like a dummy. At the end, no wonder if he’s getting tired with the way you treat him, and lastly choose not talking to you and even feel sick seeing you anymore. If you love him and appreciate your relationship, try to compromise, shut up your mouth so than you can listen to and acknowledge your partner’s opinion. Nothing wrong to feel confident in whatever you think but you also need to learn accepting your partner on the other perspectives.

Mistake #9 You lack of self-confident

If you’re not confident with yourself how on earth you can expect your partner to confident on you. You don’t need his compliments to feel great about yourself. You have to strong from inside, believes that he loves you and you’re the one he chooses to be with him forever. So, you don’t need to feel you’re lack of something or not worthy for him. Trust yourself and be positives – talk only about positives things all the time. Don’t encouraging him to put-downs you and gives him chances to treat you badly. Remember, it’s only you can boost your self-confident so no one can treat you like a doormat.

Mistake #10 You like to say “No Problem” / “It’s O.K”

You always act like there’s nothing happen even you’re not satisfied with what happening around you – he’s always late every time pick you up and often break the promise. And the simple words you can say to him is “No Problem” or “It’s O.K”. You trying your best in whatever you do just to make him happy even though you’re not happy doing it. You didn’t realize that when you say “No Problem” for the first time, he think you’re O.K with that, so he going to do it again and again without take into account what you feel. You just give him a chance to treat you like a doormat. Never ever neglect your own needs – speaking out for yourself when you’re not agrees or don’t like something. Show to him you’re not weak and not kind of woman who will be used, taken for granted or wait around for a guy who doesn’t treat her right.