Comments on: Long Distance Relationships http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/ A lifelog on relationship, pets, food and beverages, interesting stuff Fri, 16 May 2008 16:35:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Lou http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-59381 Wed, 05 Mar 2008 19:04:25 +0000 http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-59381 I have been in a LDR for a little over 5 years. There is a lot that has kept us apart for so long (both in college, my b/f also did a tour of duty in Iraq). But from day 1, neither of us felt forced or obligated to be in the relationship. Yes, we both had our fears but we were so enthralled with each other that the fear was kept at bay..and eventually disappeared. We are only 2hrs. away from each other so that helps. But there is nothing but trust, love, extreme dedicatation and most of all...FUN! We enjoy each others company so much! Even after all these years. We are best friends. We've dealt with a great deal of hardship but never once have we questioned the validity or reason for this relationship. We plan to get married as soon as my bf. completes his degree. To all of those who are either in or thinking about persuing an LDR, do what your heart tells you. And I agree with the other a bit, if at all you feel under appreciated, abandoned, ignored or anything less than 100% dedication and love, then its time to leave. Good luck! I have been in a LDR for a little over 5 years. There is a lot that has kept us apart for so long (both in college, my b/f also did a tour of duty in Iraq). But from day 1, neither of us felt forced or obligated to be in the relationship. Yes, we both had our fears but we were so enthralled with each other that the fear was kept at bay..and eventually disappeared. We are only 2hrs. away from each other so that helps. But there is nothing but trust, love, extreme dedicatation and most of all…FUN! We enjoy each others company so much! Even after all these years. We are best friends. We’ve dealt with a great deal of hardship but never once have we questioned the validity or reason for this relationship. We plan to get married as soon as my bf. completes his degree.

To all of those who are either in or thinking about persuing an LDR, do what your heart tells you. And I agree with the other a bit, if at all you feel under appreciated, abandoned, ignored or anything less than 100% dedication and love, then its time to leave. Good luck!

]]> by: MiSs LiLy http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-13092 Sat, 28 Apr 2007 17:06:47 +0000 http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-13092 Hi Hazel, glad to hear from you again. Stay far away and rarely meet your partner for quite long time with lack of commitment or readiness for sure could change people. In your case, different environment, time and distance could be the main reasons why you both changed after a few years being apart. If your love are not strong enough, you'll be easily influence by your new environment and people around you. Less you see him, the more your feelings faded. That's the way how love betray us. However about the percentage you've been talking about, it's true. Spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn't make you feel 100% or more, will ruin your life. So, rather than wasting your time, better if you go on with your new life and find someone who can make you're more than a woman :). We deserve to be happy and get the true love. Thanks for sharing Hazel. Have a nice day! Hi Hazel, glad to hear from you again. Stay far away and rarely meet your partner for quite long time with lack of commitment or readiness for sure could change people. In your case, different environment, time and distance could be the main reasons why you both changed after a few years being apart. If your love are not strong enough, you’ll be easily influence by your new environment and people around you. Less you see him, the more your feelings faded. That’s the way how love betray us. However about the percentage you’ve been talking about, it’s true. Spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t make you feel 100% or more, will ruin your life. So, rather than wasting your time, better if you go on with your new life and find someone who can make you’re more than a woman :) . We deserve to be happy and get the true love.
Thanks for sharing Hazel. Have a nice day!

]]> by: Hazel http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-12121 Thu, 26 Apr 2007 17:16:11 +0000 http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-12121 I dont believe in LDRs either. I was in one, my first BF. He was in the UK for 4 years, we kept true for all 4 years. But deep inside, i knew I no longer had feelings for him. But just kept it official (meaning not having another BF here) for the sake of 'promises'. But it was useless. When he came back after 4 years, we both had changed SO much, and of course, had a mutual breakup a week after. We were just too different. We were like different persons already. Time & distance does that to you. We had no shared common ground, as most LDRs are (unless you have a child togather etc). Most LDRs are not worth it. Just remmeber, that NO-ONE has the permission to make you feel less about yourself! The moment you feel less than 100% with someone, its time to move on. The right person will always make you feel 101% !! and nothing less than that! Coz you are really worth every bit of it :) Take care! I dont believe in LDRs either. I was in one, my first BF. He was in the UK for 4 years, we kept true for all 4 years. But deep inside, i knew I no longer had feelings for him. But just kept it official (meaning not having another BF here) for the sake of ‘promises’. But it was useless. When he came back after 4 years, we both had changed SO much, and of course, had a mutual breakup a week after. We were just too different. We were like different persons already. Time & distance does that to you. We had no shared common ground, as most LDRs are (unless you have a child togather etc). Most LDRs are not worth it.

Just remmeber, that NO-ONE has the permission to make you feel less about yourself! The moment you feel less than 100% with someone, its time to move on. The right person will always make you feel 101% !! and nothing less than that! Coz you are really worth every bit of it :) Take care!

]]> by: MiSs LiLy http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-12072 Thu, 26 Apr 2007 14:59:23 +0000 http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-12072 Hi Eddie, thanks for the comment and sharing your thought with us. Really like your ideas. Actually there's so many way to maintain LDR and few of them is like what you and me suggest for. However, if there's no commitment between both party, things possible become impossible, right? In my point of view, it's all about people, as you said - you want or you don't. I think nothing hundred percent work if there's no co-operation between the couple or readiness for better commitment. Thanks again Eddy. Hope to see you again in future. You're always welcome to share your thought with us. Hi Eddie, thanks for the comment and sharing your thought with us. Really like your ideas. Actually there’s so many way to maintain LDR and few of them is like what you and me suggest for. However, if there’s no commitment between both party, things possible become impossible, right? In my point of view, it’s all about people, as you said - you want or you don’t. I think nothing hundred percent work if there’s no co-operation between the couple or readiness for better commitment.
Thanks again Eddy. Hope to see you again in future. You’re always welcome to share your thought with us.

]]> by: Eddie http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-11614 Wed, 25 Apr 2007 08:00:08 +0000 http://www.luckylily.com/relationship/long-distance-relationships/#comment-11614 Hi Lily, I'm sorry to read that your LDR didn't worked out. I think that there are three crucial premises for a long distance relationship to work out: 1. Have an end in sight (know where you are heading and have a plan for the future) 2. Daily communication and regular meetings 3. Always stay positive and beware of jealousy This worked for my LDR. Nice article by the way :). Eddie Hi Lily,

I’m sorry to read that your LDR didn’t worked out.

I think that there are three crucial premises for a long distance relationship to work out:

1. Have an end in sight (know where you are heading and have a plan for the future)
2. Daily communication and regular meetings
3. Always stay positive and beware of jealousy

This worked for my LDR.

Nice article by the way :) .

Eddie

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