Both of you love each other and plan to be together. You think he’s the perfect mate…but is he? You know each other very well – his deficiency and advantages. But sometimes, very simple innocuous things can ruins your relationship without you realized. You maybe don’t care because it’s not really a big deal and you can handle it some times. But do you? Normally people disregard simple things that happen around them assume that it wouldn’t distract their relationship. Actually problems come and start from unexpected things which you always think nothing to worry about. Sometimes, things you like about him could be harmful to both of you much more if those things you already know have potentials could be diseases and destroy your relationship. But, because you love him, you deny the truth and try to cover everything with his love. You want to give a try with hope one day you will find the solutions to all the feebleness. Nothing wrong with trying to improve others but does he willing to changes just because of you? Because, if not you have to take a responsibility by yourself. However, here’s some questions to answer which can help you clear of unexpected land mines.

1. Does he widower and have kids?

You don’t mind if your man had been married before, but how about if he has kids? Both of you love each other but how about his children. Not many women are willing to take a chance with men who have children; however love is blind – never afraid to anything, and nothing to worry about if it just kids. But, beware because men love their children more than anything else. No surprise if he leave you just because his children don’t like you. So, take this seriously and make sure they really want you to be part of their family. Because if he marries you and his children not happy with that, there’s big chance you won’t stay longer with them.

2. Does he too hygienic?

Who don’t want to stay beside clean and tidy man? It must be proud to have boyfriend who really cares with hygienic – no stinks smell and make you feel comfortable when he’s around. But what if he’s too clean? You must be surprise when you come to his house with many rules to follow. Not enough with that, he also wants you to be clean like him – from toe till end of hair. Every day, there must be something wrong about you in his eyes – he complaint about your dandruff hair, how many time you take a bath in one day, how you handle your closet, dust on your shoes and he also so busy to take part how to manage your personal stuff. So, do you can imagine how you going to live with him?

3. Does he like playing computer games?

How many he playing games a day? Addicted to computer games can be a biggest hazards because this people wouldn’t care about anything else when their fingers already touch the keypad and their eyes already on the screen. Even it is you crying on their shoulder, they wouldn’t hear you either – he already awash inside his own world just like a drug addict. No wonder if his games are more important than you and anything else. According to expert a “hard-core gamer” is someone who spends 20-hours or more every month gaming. A third of the gaming community is in that bracket what about your man? Do you think you can spend the rest of your life with person who only lives and cares for his life and not you?

4. Does his mother like you or…?

The biggest challenge to get man you want is you have to face his mother. Lucky you if he gives you a green light and let you take over her role to take care of her beloved son. What if not? You’re never been good enough for his sons. She always trying to find your fault and wait till you do wrong, so don’t even try to fight back – all you’ll do is spark off a competition. No matter how good you are if you’re not welcoming in the family, it can be unforgettable nightmare. Maybe it’s ok if his mother shows that she didn’t like you in front of him, but how if she uses some bad tactics to make both of you hate and leave each other. Sounds scary, don’t you? So, if you really love your partner first things you should do is trying to please his mother heart.

5. Does he impolite to people?

He nice and behave politely to you but with others he become a different person. Every time you went out with him there must be something happen which make you fill uncomfortable. He likes to behave rude to anyone especially when he thinks he didn’t get a good services as he wish for. No matter whether both of you at restaurants or stores, he likes to show his power, demand for better services, argue with peoples and always think he deserves to be treat like a boss – obnoxious, clipped and offensive. Maybe you think it’s normal when he did it because he didn’t get what he want, but think carefully. If he dare being rude to others, no wonder if one day he will behave the same or more to you and your family. Being rude to others means you didn’t respect them. So, watch out! Your relationship wouldn’t go any way if both of you didn’t respect each other. Don’t hesitate to leave him if he starts to yell at you.

6. Does he punctual and keep his promise?

If yes, he’s your man. But, how about if he always late and didn’t keep his promise? He always late picking you up and never arrive on time for every date – and of course, he always give his best excuse to calm you. When you ask him, he says he did it unconsciously and deny he’s being late because he already plan to be late. So, what do you think? Maybe you should try find out whether he also being late when meet with other people. If he’s on time to meet his boss, his customers, his parents but he’s always late meeting you, then maybe he doesn’t respect you as much as you think he does. Other than that, maybe he has little regard for your importance and thinks he is superior to you. Some men like to show their power by keep others waiting, so they feel more powerful – seems like he want to show you that you’re under he’s control. If he doesn’t have much respect onto you and treat you less important than others, why do you have to keep waiting for entire of your life? Figure out where you stand in his life for yourself.

7. Does his best friend a woman?

Doesn’t feel save anymore? His best friend is woman and what make it worse is she’s his ex. You don’t mind because you’re modern, matured and progressive. But what if he more closes to his best friend than you – every time both of you encounter problems, he must end up asking for help from his best friend. And both of them seem to be comfortable to share their problems with each other. Beware, because women tend to be jealous and possessive more than you can expect. How long you can pretend there’s nothing between them and how about their closeness? Are you sure your heart wouldn’t beat faster every time you saw they be together. You trust him, and both of you matured enough to handle a relationship, but sometimes this possessive feelings could ruin your relationship. So, if you think you’re not strong enough to fight your jealousy feelings, then don’t go any further with your man.

8. Does his hobby is sleep?

Nothing wrongs with sleep, but if your man sleeps more than 12 hours a day that’s mean he is lazy and nothing else is easier than sleep. Man who not ready for commitments have many times to spend with you – waiting for you to come over to laze with them. Every week he spends most of his time to be with you, but have you ever wondered what happens to his laundry or his house? Maybe you can imagine how his life is. Other than working, this lazy man never think about anything else – never rush to do anything and he always ready to enjoy with you during his free time and than going back home and sleep. He’s easy-going and never worried about anything else - dating someone like that is easy, but imagine living with them. He can’t take any responsibilities and no wonder if one day you have to support his life and use to take care of all his belonging.

9. Does he easily satisfy with anything?

Every one feel contented with what they get from their hard work; but whether a man stop there or continuing improving themselves - there’s a different. Whether he happy with himself, or whether he lacks of ambition. First man is happy, content, pleased, rarely upset and never frustrated at not getting what he wants – he’s just grateful for what he has. Even though he satisfies with what he has, but he also has plans to go further. He won’t stop because he understands the value of hard work and believes that he is rewarded for what he does. The second man also happy and content likes the first one but he has no inclination to improves himself. That’s the different. So, which one is your man? Contented men are nice because they’re pleasant to be with but if he always feel satisfy with whatever in front of him, than you and him won’t go anyway.

10.Does he an absolute ruler?

A man that almost takes charge of you is called as autocrat man. He feels that he has full responsibility towards you and the relationship. If you just follow and give him a chance to control the situation, no wonder if he turn out to be dominance and being autocratic. He can become dictator and control how both of you live, eat, or even make love. He decided whatever he think the best for both of you without asking for your opinion. If you think your man is an autocrat, try to talk to him you’re not OKAY with his absolute ruler behavior and ask him to change. If he does not – or- will not – then you know for certain that he’s a tyrant. How you can live with somebody who never listens to you and relationship without compromise wouldn’t last forever.