Tired of dates that lead nowhere? Everything goes well during your meet but there’re still unanswered e-mails and your phone still silence as usual. So what went wrong? You’ve been introduced at a party by your friend, business card were exchanged and both of you look attracted to each other. So, both of you agree to start the first date with romantic candle light dinner. He makes jokes and you laugh, talking non-stop with lots of story, seductively tasted each other foods and even did the old lingering knee touches beneath the table thing. And when the night is coming, he ride you home, walked you to the doorstep and gives you a hug and romantic goodnight kiss J. Argghhhh…For sure you have a very beautiful dream that night. Sounds like you already found your perfect mate? And you can’t wait for the second date call, but you didn’t hear from him anymore until you desperately call him to get his answers. And what you get is: “Sorry….I’m quite busy at work, I call you when I’m free or Sorry…my server went down and I lost a week’s worth of email”. You know what it means – he’s not going to call you for the second date and the first want would be the last.

You may don’t have any idea what’s going on his mind – what you did wrong, you can’t see it. Everything looks perfect and why did he change his mind? Even what every man think is not the same but for a start, they really mind whether both of you really can get along together. In other words, he can’t grab you and his feeling towards you is not strong as he think - it ain’t electricity if it only runs one way. Because we can feel something deep inside if he’s/she’s the one we want to know more and to be together. However, here a few simple date strategies which may help you win men heart at the first date. Check it out!

Tactic #1 Be on time

Please…this is basic things to remember and if you’re late at your first date with any one, it will give bad impression to you. Don’t ever let your date have to wait for you just because you’re still busy at work or busy to put your make up or what so ever – it will be putting pressure on him. If you think you not sure you can make it today, try another day. Choose a right time, right place and make sure you’ll be punctual. For starters, not being in a darkened restaurant with someone you barely know will ease your natural compulsion to slip into “I’ve got to be fabulous” date mode. If you want to be appreciate, don’t let him has chance to change his impression towards you and leave you for another unacceptable reasons. Make your date simple but pleasantly - make the conversation as interesting as you can. If one of you feel uncomfortable at the first meet, it is almost impossible to make it better even if there’s any other chance for the second date. Some people really care about being on time no matter what’s the reason especially when it involves with something that really important to them. The way you committed to yourself shows if you’re late at first meet with someone you don’t know yet.

Tactic #2 Think before talk

Nothing wrong if you have so many ideas to story about and can converse across a broad range of topics – it’s so alluring, but make sure you know what you are talking about. In other words, talk smart! Avoid talking about something you never interested about just want to make him proud of you. You don’t have to do research about upcoming World Cup or latest Ferrari models – enough with some general knowledge in your mind which you read from newspapers or your favorite magazines. And the most important thing is, don’t try to pick the topic you’re not passion about such as politics or economics, unless you’re very sure that was the hottest topic of the year. I’m sure you don’t want the conversations become tedious and bogged. Start the conversation with something cool, some jokes and make it interesting. Avoid over-talked and gives some spaces to him. Listen to what he’s saying carefully and make sure you’re not out of topics and you’re still in the same boat with him. Shows your intelligence and eloquence by bring out the newest and the current issues in the country: Now Malaysia faces the worst flood problems – gives your brilliant opinions and what people and government do about it, for sure you can grab and hold his attention. It shows that you’re alert with things happen around you and care about others and your country even you’re not one of the victims.

Tactic #3 Have an opinion and believe in yourself

Are you afraid or shy to speak out your mind when meeting new people? If yes, you’re facing big problem because you need to be brave and confident with whatever you says. Men are more attracted to women who can convince others with their words and what makes this trait so irresistible is not so much the opinion itself but the ability to substantiate it. Your idea might be differ from him, but only by giving different point of view, both of you can have the great conversation. Having a debate at first date sounds insane, but it’s not about winning or losing the discussion. Giving a brilliant response to what he says, meaning that you’re listening to him and your comment shows your interest on the topics of the conversation.

Tactic #4 Keep it light and cool

First things to remember at the first date, is you’re not attending a jobs interview, so relax your mind and enjoy your date without asking too much private questions. Nothing wrong if you want to know more about him – what happen to his last relationship, want to know if he is after a fling or whether or not he is pro-choice, but don’t haste everything. Go in on a fact-finding mission and he’ll end up feeling grilled – when in fact what you’re after is a slow simmer. Don’t make the date too formal or even too serious; just keep it light and easy. You can ask something that can attract man’s interest – his work, his achievements and his dreams. Just be wary of crossing the sensitive area. Don’t push him to tell you what he won’t like to say – how he lives his past life or his last relationship.

The best way is just let the conversation flit naturally from one subject to another as much as possible, both of you will feel more comfortable. The only thing you need to be sure of after the initial encounter is whether or not you established a rapport. If you did, everything else will emerge over time without it feeling forced. Avoid handle the conversation too hard by asking him what his future planning or what so ever because you’re going to scared him. And the reason he didn’t call you back because he felt like dating a head hunter..Ahhahaha…so, use your sense of humor to control the situation and alternately with some jokes to have a fun…because having dates is all about pleasure and happiness.

Tactic #5 Dress comfortable

You feeling so excited and plan what you’re going to wear something fabulous – in other words; dress to kill. However, go to your first date, you don’t have to wear super sexy outfit – choose something simple, comfortable to wear and nice to see. Don’t show too much skin or showing your cleavage to win his heart – because if he just attract to you physically, your effort to find true love become futile and meaningless. Further more, by expose too much, you not just grab his attention but every man in the restaurant fixated on your breasts. And of course, these staring eyes make both of you feel uncomfortable especially he. The sexiest woman is not the one in the buttock-grazing mini or meshes whatever, she’s the one who feels most comfortable with her outfit. It’s not about what you think he would like you in, but what you can be yourself in.

As disconcerting as outfits that are too much, too little or too tight is make-up overload. Nothing wrong if you want to put some make up to disguise zits, hide flaws or to make you look more radiant, but make sure you make it light and look natural. No one wants to go on second date with someone who showed up to the first looking like a cross between an ageing party girl and a psychotic clown. Heavy make up wasn’t shows your inner beauty, instead cover up your natural beauty and the real you. By hiding yourself over mask won’t surprise or attract man otherwise it shows that you’re not confidence on yourself. Don’t make things getting worst by reapply your make up more than once when both of you are sited at the dinning table. It’s look not polite when you have dashing to the bathroom all the time. You know what I’m saying. You not just turn him off but leave him with very bad manner. Who cares?

Tactic #6 Slow and steady

Don’t rush on things like he’s going to run away somewhere else. Mostly women, wary of being though of as coming on too strong and the easy implications that can accompany it – generally take care to pare down their feedback. This combination of emotional illiteracy (his) and subtle intimations (yours) often result in him not following up for a second date because he though you weren’t keen. But it doesn’t mean you have to rush out and end your first date on bed – an unhurried kiss will say more than all the flirtatious glances underplayed compliments and hair twirling ever will. It’s the perfect way to transmit the signal that you’re keen for a sequel. Simple words such as “I had a really great time tonight”, is a double close of positive feedback t end your date and you’re practically assured of a follow-up call as he has been left in no doubt that you are keen on him.

Go for a physical liaison doesn’t guarantee for subsequent date – he’ll only be there when he need somebody to sleep with – which is seriously scraping the bottom of the date-definition barrel. In an act of staggering hypocrisy many men will get jiggy with a woman they have recently lost a fair chunk of respect for without their own self-esteem suffering. We both know this is no news flash but it’s worth reminding yourself that there will plenty of times to give in to your lust when he sees you as more person and less a sex object.

Tactic #7 Make it happen

If you want to make your date turn into special relationship, you have to make some effort and not just sitting there waiting for his call. If you think your first date goes well, why don’t you start the move – pick up the phone and make the next date happen. Being proactive not only confirms that you find him attractive, but is also incredibly flattering as most guys will be able to count on one hand the number of times they’ve been asked out. And women with high confident are more attractive and the way to man’s heart is through his ego and although it sounds odd, few things guarantee – you open his eyes and touch his heart.