Where is your relationship heading? Do you think you and your partner are ready to go through tough time together, still holding hand during crucial time and have strength to face any obstacle? Some couples can’t estimate how far their relationship is but still feel confident enough to make conclusion how serious they are. However, when troubles come, they can’t even go through it and worse they blame each other for what happen to them.

To build a strong and secure relationship is not easy – how long you’ve been together won’t guarantee your relationship will be survives. If you’re not sure how strong your bond with your partner, you should give serious attention what level your love is in? Is it serious enough to enter marriage gateway or still floating in the sky looking for more strength to hold on into the relationship? Why some marriage couples fail to maintain their love and why some successful hold on till the end? You know the answers. Find out where your love is and make a move before it’s too late. Only by know where your love is, so you can estimate how strong bond between both of you and only then you can be sure both of you are ready to go further together live happily ever after. No worry, no hesitate, no regret, only blissful!

Stage #1 Growing stage

In this stage, both partners are still in learning process and understanding each other. Stages where couple starts to know each other deeply is the most exciting part in love level. It’s stage where romance and intimacy stay in the higher place and involve deep feeling and emotion. This is also the great time for change. You maybe choose to stay with your couple or decide not to until you’re sure it’s worthy to do it. You’re searching for something which more important to your life, which should give more priority and what shouldn’t. Sometimes, changes bring force upon the couple.

Even your feeling is strong towards your partner, but when other exciting opportunity come, it is easy to forget your partner and not set aside enough couple time. New things bring new temptations and meeting new people increase the danger of an affair. When the other person neglect their partner, it hurts, feel isolated, create misunderstanding and the result are troubles occurs. To overcome those problems, it is important for the person to share their interest or experience with their partner and for the other party to show an interest. Both should spend more time together, care about each other and don’t incautious about your partner authority. Put more effort onto your relationship and don’t let your heart change together every time new life wheel crossing you. Stay to your heart, so you can keep your love alive forever.

Stage #2 Difficult stage

These couples always face argument and have a lot of problems and start hurting each other feeling. Small and simple things like their partner forget to switch off light can cause a fight and it can accelerate for bigger problems. Sometimes, even there’s nothing to fight about, anger can initiate itself just by talking about something innocent - and what make it worst is they like bring it seriously until fight blazed. Even though they try to avoid fight by moving to new house or changing jobs, it’s doesn’t seem works out. If they agree about something, it wasn’t hold for very long. To them, life won’t be interesting if there’s no fight and to settle down everything needs more than a week. So, it just like a circle – continuously – one problem not settle down yet, coming the other problem.

Actually the problems come from the couples itself. Maybe one of them has some bad experiences during childhood time or it already rooted firmly inside. When the other partner angry, the other one keep silence and when it’s coming to fight again, the same thing repeat again. To solve the problems, they should look deep inside and don’t let situation or environment control their love life. Both should learn to communicate more often and don’t let the one control the whole situation. Both should try to calm when faces problems and be more open, so both can have discuss in a control manner. Marital counseling is needs if situation become uncontrollable because it could bring to abusing problem.

Stage #3 Sexual attraction stage

Both love and sex are incredibly important in a relationship. Lovemaking increase closeness and intimacy between couples and if it practically with good communication and sincere, it’ll bring happiness to the relationship. Most couples spend a lot of time and energy goes into planning the perfect sexual experience and it’s a good thing to do for marriage person. They start to dream about their partner, looking for new lingerie and start searching for romance books or movies. But beware! People in illicit affairs are most likely to become trapped in this stage. Every new couple goes through this phase – some can make it and some needs more times and find other ways of communicating.

Intense sexual love sounds wonderful, but if your relationship grown by only depending on passion, it could be very vulnerable. What if your partner under a lot of pressure outside and bring it home? Besides, great sex can be addictive to some people in destructive affairs and it’s hard to break free. Go to bed after a row is not a good idea even it can create different and fun for someone. Don’t let yourself lure by the sexual high and the artificial closeness because it is important to communicate and feel the true love. Remember, great sex doesn’t mean you have a great love; maybe it just lust and hatred can also fuel passion, too.

Stage #4 Steady stage

What we can say about these couples is, their relationships are quite strong and secure enough to face any obstacle and they know how to overcome their problems. What makes they can feel comfortable is how they can trust their partner without worry for any threat. So, this trustworthy allow them to go on with their private lives and gives space each partner to pursue their own individual dreams. However, giving so much trust also can bring problems to the stable relationship.

Being so comfortable make a couple takes each other for granted. One side hold on to the busy life and the other one choose to stay quite all the time. They don’t realize there’s fine line between keeping the relationship nicely and closing the eyes to problems. All of this maybe alright in the short-term, but it can be dangerous in a long-term relationship – slowly the relationship can be interrupted and suddenly the couple already in a deep trouble. Even you live in the happiest moment, don’t take easy the expansion of your relationship. It is important to keep work over it time-by-time and don’t lax with recent contentment. Arrange some private time special for both of you to increase closeness and to check out the progress and what’s happening in each other’s lives. Don’t easily deceive if you find your partner seems pre-occupied and alright after a quarrel, but try to talk after both calm down. Remember, how well you used to communicate, identify what has changed and bring back the good old habits.

Stage #5 Pleasant stage

They look perfect all the time – seems to be happy couples and what other people think is very important to them. Even in private, the nearest they come to an argument is working themselves up into a cool sulk. However, to make things look more nice and amicable, they have to suppress all their differences. Nobody can guest whether they had any problem or not because they act very well control the situation and sometimes they are not even aware themselves that they are doing it. Even though these couples are very good in handling or hiding their relationship disability, without conscious they actually put their relationship into trouble. What makes things worse is when major upsets occur, which cannot be brushed under the carpet; they have no experience solving the disagreements. And lastly their only solution is to split up – surprising people around them without knowing what’s actually going on between them.

To hide problems from others is a good things and look nice but if a couple keeping anger inside all the time, it will bring to more pain and when it’s time to explode, they can’t do anything to bring back the great moment. It’s better if a couple be more open and settle things done by improving their communication and make a solution possible. Finally, it is important to accept that two people cannot agree all the time; it doesn’t stop you from loving each other.