Friendships trustworthy
Everyone wants a true friend, someone you can trust, share mind and though together without worrying about what others will think. A true friend will understand your needs, trust you and will be with you without any analysis or criticism. Whenever you need support, her/him is always there for you and always come forward to help you without any request or expecting anything in return. True friends never break a confidence where you can trust with your secrets, both large and small. Can you be a true friend? Are your good friend now is your true friend? What if the one you ever trust betray your confidence?
After a romantic relationship, friendships are the most important relationship we can have. Even all of us have a family, but most of us rely on friends for advice, comfort and inspiration. Friendships are much needed in our life but it also opens the door for hurt and harm and harmful friend can be one of life’s hardest relationship tribulations to forgive and forget. It is risky to find a true friendship because friend is human. They are change. Some friends may betrayed you from the start and others may turn into betrayers because of what’s going on in their life can change their personality. You may not want to involved further with this type of friendship so, recognize this type of toxic friend before it harm you. Check it out!
Toxic #1 The User ~ This person only stay beside you as a friend as long as he/she can use you for some purpose or goal of his/her own. This person could be the most harmful of toxic friend.
Toxic #2 The Betrayer ~ It’s unbelievable the one you trust stab your back. Nothing more hurt than a friend who betrays your trust.
Toxic #3 The Promise Breaker ~ This kind of person rarely does what he/she promises to do. If you have a date, your toxic friend is often no-show. A general lack of dependability makes this person a toxic friend.
Toxic #4 The Control Freak ~ The control freak is a friend as long as she/he is in control. The control freak often seems to be helping you. Refuse that help or break that control and find out what toxic friendship really means.
Toxic #5 The Gossip ~ Gossip will eventually betray your trust. This happen maybe because of jealousy factor. Gossips are easy to spot, so beware your friendship with them earlier.
Toxic #6 The Judge ~ Ever judgmental, ever critical, this friend can erode your self-esteem. You can rarely do thing completely right with this toxic friend.
Toxic #7 The Competitor ~ An appropriate amount of competition between friends is healthy, will motivate and stimulate but if there’s too much competition will start to destroy the relationship. The competitor is always looking to be one up. Be careful because it makes a toxic friend.
Toxic #8 The Self-Centered Person ~ This person never thing about you or others because they are too busy thinking of themselves. Beware! Because whatever happen, her herself is priority.
Toxic #9 The Leaner ~ The leaner is a very needy friend who clings and may be at your doorstep every day. He/she usually wants all of your time and jealousy often enters the picture in this friendship.
After you read this what is your opinion? I believe you had been meet this type of person at least once in your life. Again, no one can avoid a toxic friend. It’s not easy to live in this complicated world. Sometimes we have to accept the way it one to be just for peace and just makes things down to earth and your life will more easier. Remember, sometimes things happen not always like what we want it to be. You make mistake so do others. And sometimes life should be accused. What say you?
I hope Im not one of them.. I just want to be ur true friend. Forever n ever..
Commented by Qumang on October 13, 2006 at 5:12 pmYes! You’re one of the greatest friend i ever had. Many things we had share together; through many obstacle and this make our friendship stronger than ever…Thanks and sorry for so many things. KEEP PEACE!Friendship forever…chaiyo..
Commented by MiSs LiLy on October 14, 2006 at 1:53 amUuuuuu..
When can we meet again.. Miss u so much!
Commented by Qumang on October 17, 2006 at 2:27 pmumm….I think the question is what friend DOESN’T fall into one of those categories??
Commented by Sabrina on February 8, 2007 at 10:16 amThanks Sabrina..Not all of people using their friends, take advantages from them or among one of the categories I had mentioned above, but they are exists. Sometimes they do it without knowing it themselves or without any specific reason, it just the way how they handle the friendship. Sad to say; but if your friends doesn’t fall into one of the categories above, maybe she/he is your true friends. Lucky you! There’s more types of relationship, and what I wrote here only part of them which often happen to most of the friendship today.
Commented by MiSs LiLy on February 9, 2007 at 7:49 amHi,
Commented by Terry on February 18, 2007 at 2:12 amI am going through a very rough period myself right now due to some previous unhealthy friendships. There are 2 main things that I have come to realize. One, is that when you are kind hearted and giving you need to learn to say no. Then (ask yourself, what does this person do for me or add to my life.) Asking myself this question is what has helped me to sever several so called “friendships” that I thought I had. When the answer has come up that they haven’t been there for me then I know the people to say no to now.
The 2nd thing I learned is quite simple. I am a very, very good friend to anyone. I have been told throughout my whole life what a good friend I am, and how helpful and kind and supporting, etc…. I am. Not trying to blow my own horn just trying to make a point. The point is this, “Just because this is the type of friend I am it doesn’t mean that other people are capable of being this type of friend in return.
I know I don’t ask much from my “Friends”. Just that they are there for me if possible, (I don’t ask this too often), If I ask them to do something very simple and I keep getting responses like, I have a headache, or I’m tired, or ….you get the point. Yet, I’m always there for them.
People can be very selfish.
Now, I keep my distance from these so called friends. At least this way, I can no longer be used by them and continuously be hurt. I have my fiance who is my best friend and even though he can sometimes be insensitive,(he doesn’t mean to be) he means well and it’s what is in his heart that matters. He has always been there for me and that’s how I measure friendship.
Hi Terry,
Commented by MiSs LiLy on February 18, 2007 at 3:48 pmThanks for sharing. I’m sorry to hear that how selfish your friends use to be and I’m very touched with what you did for your friendships especially when you did it sincerely. Your problems is you’re too kind and hard to say no when your friends asking for your help and when you need help, everyone’s missing and what hurt more is they gives so much excuses. I say to you: People who treat friends like that is not a true friends. They just use you and take some advantages from it. True friends always be there and never ever giving excuses no matter how busy they are. Sometimes people with a very kind hearted like you often delude by some kind of hypocrite and selfish people who never think about others feelings. So, avoid these type of people and next time when them asking some help from you, learn to say no.
Friends is the most person we need whenever we face problems,and not only that. In our happy time, friends also the first person we looking for to celebrate and share those amazing moment. As I said above, true friends are not looking for us only during his/her hard time but always be there whenever you need them no matter what situation you’re in. True friends don’t ask for anything in return but always be there for you and appreciate the friendships you’ve been build together. Hope you can find your true friends - someone who really appreciate the kind of you. Thanks again..