Dating Tips – How to do know if you dating a wrong guy

Having doubts about your man?

Has your Dream Boy turned into a dud?

Any question to your unstable relationship?

It’s not about you had chosen a bad guy to be your lifetime partner. It’s not that you’re bad judge of character. It’s just that relationships don’t always get better with time. Sometimes they peak early and then go downhill fast. Why it’s hard to find the right guy to stay forever? You met, get to know each other and fall in love….as times goes by, things change and you start to feel he’s not the guy you want. But, do you think it’s too late knowing that his not the guy of your dream when all your heart belongs to him? Before you know it, you’re talking more to your friends about the last time he made you cry than make you smile or complaining how suffer you are to be with somebody you know and now become a different person. Maybe it’s time for you to think again and tell if it’s time to fix it or forget it.

Rethink #1 The Happy / Sad Test

The simple thing to do is by asking yourself sincerely. Are you mostly happy or mostly sad when you’re with this guy? Forget how much you love and adore him. Look more to your actual relationship and the balance of emotion within it. Do you feel better in your relationship now or it’s happier when you were single? Be truthful. If you’re less than happy, look at the reason why. If it’s your job, home life, family or health, then these are things you can control. But if you think it’s your relationship, you may need to face the fact that you’re not bringing out the best in one another, despite your feelings. In any relationship, there has got to be a healthy balance. Sure, there might be hard patches but, most of the time, you should feel pretty good.

There’s no point to standing by someone who always make you cry for unreasonable things. You cried about him seeing his ex, him standing you up, or putting you down in front of his mates. You can cheat yourself but you can’t close your friend’s eyes because they can see how miserable you are although you hidden the truth.

Bottom line: Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t think to place any value on your happiness?

Rethink #2 Doubt Factors

Why there’s always doubt when you’re in relationship? You might be thinking its not healthy but having doubt is not always bad. In fact, it’s a healthy thing to feel as you move forward with your man. Living together….buying a house….strutting up the aisle it’s a natural (sometimes scary) progression. Maybe you can take few minutes and ask yourself whether this is still what you want, rather than being swept along in the momentum. Trust is earned, not assumed. You can make this time as a testing time to see if you’re good match. You won’t see the stop signs if rush straight in. Never throw yourself in you can’t know him in hurry.

Take your time to know him deeply and trust your instinct. If from the beginning you already have bad feelings and there was up and down in the relationship, why you have to wait until it’s too late and hard to walk away? Pretty soon you’re in too deep. You recognise on some level that you’re not just getting respect or love, but the thought of starting over stops you from finally making the tough call. A break-up sucks. So does the scary you’re treating me like a crap conversation. Low self-esteem and insecurity can follow, with you as the emotional road-kill.

Be strong: If you doubt is overwhelming, heed the alarm and move on.

Rethink #3 The Potential He’s Got

….Low On Financial. If we have money, it’ll be different.

….Bad Handling On Stress At Work. It’s so great when we’re in holidays.

….It’s A Phase. He won’t always do drugs and be moody.

….Sometimes Get Emotionally Immature. But that will change.

The truth is, we don’t just fall in love with the man, and we also fall in love with his potential. That’s why we can suffer heartbreak after a month-long affair. But potential can also be a smoke screen, keeping the limits of a relationship disguised in all that optimism. The reality is that, sometimes, people just don’t evolve into the best they can be. Love can be detected earlier if you open your eyes and keep some space in your heart to love yourself, so when the times to recognize whether he’s good enough for you, you can decide the best way to moved on. Make sure a man you choose to be with you for the rest of your life is someone who always put you as a priority in his life. If he just fulfill your requirement because the charisma, intelligence and yes potential to be a great person, think again! You might be getting yourself into heartbroken.

If you don’t want to fall into this kind of trap, keep a check on how your expectations are tracking with reality. How long are you prepared to wait for his actions to measure up to your visions? Ultimately, you can only base your decision to stay on the real state of the relationship (and how he treats you) today. Tomorrow may never come.

Rethink #4 Spots. Don’t. Change.

It’s better to know there are some things that will change about a guy such as his job and things that won’t such as his personality. Sure the guy who’s a party animal at 20 may take a wife at 30. Lifestyle choices change as we mature, and the desire to, say, drinks yourself stupid is often replaced with the desire to accumulate wealth and breed. However, a man who is inherently jealous, possessive, dishonesty, violent….these are character traits that aren’t likely to change. You can hang in there and tell yourself that love will tamper the less attractive parts of his personality. But you’re taking big risk.

Unfortunately, you can’t always love someone better. People just can’t help who they are. What needs to change for him to make you happy? If he’s not what you want now, he won’t necessarily evolve into it. People not change too much!

Rethink #5 What’s Love Got To Do With It?

Falling in love is one of the best things that can happen, but the flip side is that it can also be one of the worst. When we love someone, we often hang on to them even when they’re no good for us. Loving him shouldn’t come at the expense of loving yourself. If he’s the one for you, then by continuing the relationship you’re not making room for someone who is. Don’t felt over frustrated or act like your life is over when the relationship you thought will be the first and the last are ended. Take it as a challenge and listen to build for new lasting relationship.

The lesson: Each failed relationship teaches you more about what you want and how to get it. And brings you closer to meeting your perfect match.