Break up – how to win back your man heart

Sometimes, few emotions can make us losing our consideration in making a right decision, rival love and remorse especially when it comes to raw power. You fall in love; work hard to posses the love, nurture them and sacrifice your whole life to maintain the relationship. One day, your mind and heart was knocked by some power comes from nowhere makes you think about break up and leaving your couple life for something else. Thousands of reasons come to your mind at the time you dumped him. Your desires for being single, freedom or looking for someone better makes you become selfish, cruel and greedy person. You want to get everything, chasing your desires and make your life perfect without think about your partner, but you don’t realize at the same time you make a big mistake, hurting yourself and worst still, you intentionally breaking his heart.

Day after day, your heart felt empty, your life become meaningless and every step forward become harder and harder. The only things leave with you just a broken heart, loneliness, contrition and longing for his present. Suddenly, you woke up with a clear objective in mind – you’re still in deep love with your man and want him back! You realized kicking him out was the biggest mistake you’ve made in your life. But how do you want to win his heart back? Does it possible to do so? Nothing is possible as long as you have that guts to win back what’s rightfully yours – there’s always a way.

However, your chances of success depend on two main factors: The manner and the reason you dumped him in the first place. The most important thing is be sincere, don’t hypocrite and tell him the truth then he will feel how much you regrets about your rushing decisions last time. We all knew people with broken heart are very dangerous – they’re full with tears, hated and even a grudge. So beware if he easily given his forgiven and allow you coming back to him – because it will only be for revenge sex and the chance to inflict the same pain you did on him. But, if you both truly still in love and he’s the person that foreordained for you then he will come back into your arms no matter what and remember sincerity is over than everything else. All you need are the following guidance and a willingness to make more effort, readiness to confess your fault will help you get higher chances of luring him back.

Why break-up #1 Losing freedom and feeling confined

We can’t deny at the beginning of every relationship, every couple confesses everything was run smoothly and seems to be perfect. But, from time to time, everyone in a relationship feels like a little constrained by the myriad responsibilities and many obligations required to keep the union evolving and rewarding. This is the common phenomena which cost into separation between couple. It’s only us as human who never stop to think back whether tomorrow is better, same as today or become worse than the day before. That’s why we always makes mistakes when it’s comes to decide for life partner and future.

Okay, you just took the wrong step by dumped your man because you felt uncomfortable and insecure but now you realized he’s the best man for you. So, don’t wait any longer, take your step now and start with team honesty and flattery to win back your man. Tell him the true reason of the matter – that it’s all happen because your own fault and nothing to do with him. And when you’re far from him, you realized how much he meant to you. Then ask if he’d like to get back together. Don’t forget to show how much you love him and why you choose him at the first place. If he really loves you, he will forgive you as he saw the honesty and truth in your eyes. Let him know you just a little bit confusing and promise him it’ll never happen again. Be sure, however, that you’ve have not left him with the impression that the reunion is a fait accompli. It will only take place if he feels that it was his decision to get back together – after all, you’re the one who did the dumping.

Why break-up #2 He lied to you & betrayed the relationship

This is why people agree love is blind and says that the power of love is over anything else. You dumped him because he cheated on you and you want him back is like you gives him another chance and encourage him to betray you again and again. Be careful because you just reveal yourself into a dangerous game and your trust might harm your heart again. Trust is like a shattered mirror and no matter how diligently you try to put it back together, some shards will go missing, cracks will be evident and your relationship’s reflection will forever be altered as a result. Although it is hard to forgive a betrayal especially when it’s come to loyalty and trust, some couples still can forgive and gives second change with hope they’d learn from mistakes. So, if you find yourself in this position, make sure he understand the reason you be positive and it’s not easy as he think. You did it to give you both one more chance and it’s possible to get more than twice.

Why break-up #3 Intimacy faded and the fire was gone

What more we can say about this? Almost every long-term relationship will go through this crucial phase and whether you pass it successfully or fail depends on how you and your partner overcome it effectively together. It’s not an easy task as both of you have to take part to keep the carnal flames alive. Although it’s hard accomplish the mission and we all know how many times it takes to make it happen, but if you both stay together, nothing is impossible. However, if it’s only you who always the one who tried hard to initiate the fire all the time, whipping up candlelit dinners and enacting midnight fantasies, while he provided was turgidity, you probably had every right to dump him as his ambivalence probably echoed loudly throughout the relationship.

If this sounds familiar and you still want to get back together, ask yourself why? If you’re manage to compile a list of compelling reasons, toughen up and demand your due or you’ll just be mistreated all over again. Admit your mistakes and tell him you just made mistake in breaking up and ask if he’d consider getting together again. Don’t push if he says no, but if he agrees; point out how you’d like the relationship to be different this time around. Explain to him how important is his involvement and contribution to keep the love alive. No exception when it’s come to responsibilities and he needs to take on his share of tasks and duties to ensure your pairing prospers. It’s not only you have to work out on everything but both of you and with this second opportunity you could have done more to contribute to the vitality of the relationship and you needs his support to make it. Convince him you both still have a bright future as long as he’s also willing to renew his efforts to make things work out.

Why break-up #4 You’re pressured by friends and family

It was sad when you have to leave your man because your family and friends don’t approve your relationship. This is perhaps the easiest situation in which to win back your man. However, you also have to deal with men’s ego, so although it’s not your fault, you have to give good explanations to gain his forgiveness. Never underestimate his reactions and the possibility he might still mad at you because you’re easily manipulated by others and turning your back into him at the moment he really needs your support. And now you want him back? Okay, you can start by admit your mistakes; maybe by sending his cards, asking for forgiveness and tell him you truly confusing when people around you pushed you into dead end.

The separation and being apart with him makes you realized that being with him is worth more to you than the disapproval of others and that you will gladly risk alienation to return to the way things were. Oh, one more thing; don’t forget to cook his favourite dishes, for sure he’ll be aching to forgive you. Well, by now his ego might be in the swelling process, so take this chance to show how much you miss him.

Why break-up #5 You think he wasn’t good enough for you

After being together for quite a long time, you suddenly felt he wasn’t cool enough or didn’t say or do the right things as you always wanted for. Whatever he does, none of them gives pleasure to you. So with that unstable emotions you just decide to dumped him without think or bring up the problems into discussions. We can see here it was your mistakes because you took drastic actions without trying to find the solutions first and put the entire burden on him. So, now you need to get ready with thick faces to get his forgiveness. This is going to be seriously uncomfortable, so don’t surprised if he makes you squirm a little – in fact, you probably deserve it.

Radiate sad sincerity, look pleadingly into his eyes and explains how much you felt guilty by trying to turn him into someone else when who he are is everything you could ever want. This tactic might make you look syrupy and desperately, but if you really mean it, he can felt your genuinely and he knows how much you appreciated him now. So, next time took a deep look in yourself before complaining about your partner. The problems might come from you.

Why break-up #6 You dated other guys

Why play with fire if afraid to burn? You called things off because you think you could date other guys with hope to meet someone better than him. Well, seems like you’re in big trouble if before this you’d sugarcoated your genuine motivation. Now, it’s the time to reveal the truth and he deserves to know the real reason. Beware, because wounded man is more dangerous and it’s not easy to deal with his ego. Immediately proffer an apology for not being straight with him then explain that you were trying to not add further pain to the situation.

Now he knows the truth – get ready to dine a whole lot of humble pie for dinner. However, telling him the truth will give you extra points because you just show him how much you regret and know how to admit your own mistakes. Good for you, great for him and avail to the relationship. Make it clear that none of the men you dated since the split have made you feel as attractive or respected as he did. Actually that bad experience gave you an opportunity to compare and contrast – and he was the clear winner every time. Your sincere compliment might knock down his ego and the rest, up to you – of course you know how to make him fall right in your arms, right? The catch? You have to mean every single of your words. Good luck!