Relationships between human can’t be easily predicted only by looking at the beginning of any stable relationship because it may change at the middle of the journey. Sometimes we can see many couples live happily in their early relationship but after a few years later, most of them facing troubles and some are thinking to end up their relationship. The question is why these few couples can’t get through all the troubles and always choose the easy way by let go their partner? We all know every relationship was started because of love – the way we attracted to our partner, learn to accept each other as who they are and fulfill each other needs which complete our love life. But does it work as we wish to be? Unfortunately, not all the relationship runs smoothly and the person you think can gives happiness to your life only show the real him after he own you and not the same person as you know before.

He’s the one that really cares about you once, suddenly changes into selfish person, forgettable and don’t care about your feelings anymore. Your relationship become his only relationship – everything is all about him – do what he liked to do, make his own decision and what make it so sad is you’re never be the first in his mind. Does it mean he lose interest in you or missing all the loves and passions? Whatever cause to the changes, it’s seems to be a bad signs to you both and if you didn’t take any action to save your relationship, no wonder in the next few months you become another single woman who failed to maintain the relationship. Experts always remind us that the best way to maintain long lasting relationship is to aim for egalitarian relationship means that your lover must treat you as an equal.

But, how exactly does a girl get her lover to be more sensitive and giving? Are you going to cry and please him and expense of your self-respect? If you can’t changes his stubborn mind by yelling, nagging or even talking, you might need some strategies to get over his mind and rescue your relationship. Here’s some unique ways which might help you to get closer to your man. It might need more times to apply these into your relationship but once you get connected to him, you know it worthy to do – sexier, closer bond with your man, along with a stronger sense of self.

Strategy #1 Dare to speak out your mind

To be a good partner to your man doesn’t mean you have to keep your mouth shut when you realize there’s something is not okay happenning around you. You don’t have to act like a “good girl” and give all your love and sacrifice your whole life just want to make him happy, but you didn’t realize at the same time you just ruin your own life. You just try so hard to please him. If you don’t agree he’s not working and let you pay everything to support his life, tell him. Don’t afraid of losing him or you never ever get another chances to tell him when he leaving you for another better opportunities. Remember, you can’t buy man’s love for the price of your self-respect. Don’t afraid when people say the best way to win and keep a man’s love is to avoid confrontation. It’s ridiculous! Barbara DeAngelis, a psychotherapist says, “If you’re in unequal relationship, your relationship are just as high – if not higher – that your lover will take you for granted, cheat on you, or leave. So if you’re nervous about challenging him for fear you’ll lose him, remember this: It might be riskier not to make waves.”

Strategy #2 Be your own financial master – earn and control your own income

Why most of career women leave their job and choose to stay at home to bake bread and raise babies? Is that because he wants you to do so or it is you who trust him and expected he can handle those responsibilities? But, remember, does he really want it to be that way? Lucky you if he treats you fair and happily support your whole life. But when your lover doesn’t see you as an equal, you can’t afford such homely luxury. So, it’s better to have your own income and you’re ready for any changes that might come into your relationship and your life too. Have your own savings, open a private account, obtain credit cards under your name and don’t forget to get involves with any major purchasing and financial decisions. Protest if he’s not asking for your opinion and put more of your money in reserve if he made decisions without your knowledge.

Strategy #3 Improve your sexual life

Believe it or not, lack of interest in sexual activities is one of the major sources which bring into relationship problems especially when you’re involved with a man who refuses to compromise. Try to make new fantastic move and bring back all the passion and love you both just leave out. If it’s he the only one who always initiated lovemaking, come on to him more often. You can make he felt the love by spending more time on foreplay. Don’t hesitate to start the first move and request something he might find risqué. Let him know your steamiest fantasies. If he won’t, act them out with you, please yourself.

Strategy #4 Be yourself

It’s normal when a woman tend to changes her original style or the whole things about herself to impress her lover and want to look like as he wants you to be. You leaving all your favorite clothes, change your sensual perfumes, updating your hot make-up and everything which all this time is part of your life, make you feel confident and happy about yourself. You might don’t know when you turn the power of your sexuality over to a man; you’re losing your shinning and at the same time reduce your sex drive – and no wonder he get bored and broke it off. How it could be? Surprisingly, he actually doesn’t want you to change that much but he didn’t realize it because his ego’s and don’t want other men to pursue you. So, stay hot with original you and wear whatever you like and comfortable with, of course the one that make you feel alluring, and don’t forget to trust your own judgments. Remember, it was your style that attracted him in the first place, right? So, why have to make a change?

Strategy #5 Create your own path

Don’t feel too sensitive when he spend most of his time into his career and rarely gives you a phone call when he’s busy or going back late. Create your own way, continue your daily activities by yourself even it’s mean you have to take a solo vacation. If he’s late for dinner, start without him. The secret to asserting your own idiosyncrasies isn’t to get revenge, but to do something positive for yourself so that eventually he does want to share time with you, you’ll feel relaxed, and free of resentment. If he beefed or dismissed your complaint about his bad habits, do the same thing against him, but please do it in easy way. So, the man who’d refused to admit there was an even a problem decided he’d better find a solution.

Strategy #6 Set aside your privacy time

In a good relationship, spending most of the time together is the best way to get into closeness and intimacy. But, if you almost don’t have time for yourself also gives effect to your own life and the relationship too. He asks for your help almost for himself – his career and everything that related to him and you with a good heart lend all your private time for him. And he never seemed to reciprocate all your work instead of beefed on you when you say you need space for yourself to settle your work and don’t want to be disturbed while working. Huhhh…He still angry with you yet still don’t understand what you mean by that. Maybe you should make whisper tune telling him that emotional support should be a two-way street and not only you have to be there for him but he have to do something in return and it’s all about give and take. Well, maybe after this he became more sympathetic to your situations.

Strategy #7 Shape out your own territory

Okay, both of you are agree to share everything when you both are staying together. But what you see now is different from what he’s been promised to you – house décor, wall paper color and house furniture’s all reflects your taste. If you felt like you’re staying at stranger house, than it’s time for you to add your touches and spread your ideas. That first step in staking out territory needn’t be major league; you can make a little change which fit you both taste. Tell him, it’s not his only house but yours too, so you also have a right to put what you want, and carve out your own space. It’s fair for both of you. If you can learn to accept his ideas, why not him tries to comprehend your needs?

Strategy #8 Show him he’s right about everything

How it could be? He always says he was right – he makes decisions for you, he tells you what is right for you, choose clothes for you and he always remind you what to do and what you’re not suppose to do. You felt bad about yourself, slammed the door to show your anger, show him how you unsatisfied with his actions and sadly cry for his sympathy. And when he accuses you of being forgetful, you tried very hard to remember everything in your mind to prove that you’re right. You think by prove he was wrong and strain overtime to please him will change his bad behavior? You’re wrong. It wouldn’t change anything; instead, it will make him feel more powerful against you and his always right. So, why don’t you show him he’s totally right about everything. Let him make overall decisions and show him you can’t make any decisions even the small one; when he asks you, says that you can’t make any decisions or don’t know what to do, what to choose or what to say. In short, you can’t do anything without him deciding or telling you what to do. If he got brain, he will think. Hopefully, he realizes that unless he wanted to take over everything, he’d have to start letting you make decisions.

Strategy #9 Show him that your heart is not playground

Every time you want to discuss about problems he shut out the door and leaving. And he always makes excuses each time you want to have a talk to be more responsive to your feelings. It’s so upset when he never want to listen to you and assume things you want to discuss with him is not an important matter. So, what are you waiting for? Show him how serious you are and your feelings are not about simple thing to disregard. Pack your bag and ready to leave him, and when he ask where you want to go, tell him you have to move out for a few days or weeks to settle down your problems yourself and you really mean it. So, by that he knows that he’s already hurt your feelings and from that he realize he should put more attention on you next time.

Strategy #10 Don’t convince him too much

We all know true love should be unconditional: You should love and care about your partner no matter what and accept them inherently. However, unmitigated adoration may backfire – especially when you’re with an emotionally withholding mate. If you reassure your man that you rather die than leaving him, you give him big point to take you for granted. You just giving him what he wants and that’s what all insecure men waiting for: Assurance for his insecurities. Don’t easily losing your wings; when your lover is trying to be top dog, you’ll often get more from him if you keep him guessing a little.