When you’re too afraid to fall in love…..

You think you’ll never get over it when a guy breaks your heart. The more you’ve been hurt in love the harder it is to give your heart again. Is this true? Or maybe too many people fall in with the expectation that their beloved is going to love them back, and it doesn’t happen. Fear of love and loving holds many back from what could be memorable and fulfilling relationships. There’s so many reason why people afraid to finding true love again.

Fear is real killer of opportunity, success and love. You feel down on yourself why don’t my relationships ever work out?; foolish How could I have given so much to someone so undeserving?; and angry this is the last time I ever let someone do this to me! Fearful people play it saves and never take chances or assume risks. For these individuals, the desire for the experience of a happy, caring relationship is far less than the overwhelming need to avoid pain.

But until when? I do experience it before. And I feel a little fearful of it happening again. I do many foolish things and create many non logical tactics to keep my heart secure but the truth is I just run away avoiding intimacy likely to end up with a heart that is breaking from loneliness and the ache to be loved. Keep in mind that many people are just as afraid of success as they are of failure. You can give and give in the hopes that love will conquer all, but it rarely does.

But when you’re overly cautious about protecting yourself in love you deny yourself the chance of ever achieving this level of emotional happiness. If you’re willing to take a gamble, then so be it. But if you want a truly intimate relationship, why waste your time chasing someone or begging them to give you and your love a chance? Why not put your energies instead into someone who comes right out and says yes, I’ve been hurt before, but I want to love again. Why not spend that loving energy with someone willing to open their heart and mind and courageously take a chance at love right along with you?

You still had plenty of love there waiting to be given to the right person. And when finally you found him you had nothing to lose and plenty to gain. What do you think?