Valentine’s special - 6 ways into marriage proposal
Year by year passing by, your valentine day is remain the same. Watching the stars, enjoying candle light dinner, having a seductive dancing or going for romantic holiday but you still didn’t hear any marriage proposal come out from his sweet lips. “I love you honey, I want to be with you forever”. Sounds familiar? You know he loves you and you love him too – both of you have a strong sense of wanting to be together all the time. But why after many years of the relationship there are still no magic words surprising you. You’re still only his girlfriend and nothing special about that – you want for something more than just girlfriend and want to be part of his life. You want to get hitch by a guy you love and can’t wait to say “I do” when he approach you, of course, in the most romantic place you ever imagine.
How sweet? But, until now, it still remains a never ending day dreams which you’ve been crazy for all this time. You might be think he’s not ready for it, or he don’t have that strength to speak out his, or maybe you didn’t ignite any green light showing him how much you want to get hitch and ready to stay beside him happily ever after. Maybe it’s hard for him to do it alone, so it’s only you can help him to propose, put the ring on your finger and wear you a wedding dress. Here are six sure-fire ways to encourage him to pop the question and how to clinch the deal and bag the rock. Check it out!
Big M #1 Give some clues and tell him your thoughts on marriage.
Marriage is something big to mostly guys and not all of them even dare to go through this new life especially leaving their free single life. They have pretty lame ideas of what it actually means to be married. And what often play in their mind is that their youth time is over when they are getting married. This sort of half-baked theory remains in their mind and what make it worst, it could become your man theory. He afraid his life might be change after a marriage and he might be worry what is your reaction when he going to propose you. So girl, take a move if you don’t want to wait for the rest of your life.
You can start by having some talk; choose the right time and maybe this coming valentine day is the best time for both of you to know each other point of view. Who knows after a few months later he’s going to says that magic words. You can start by talking about future and slowly attract his attention into life after marriage. You just slip your thoughts into the conversation. If he gives a positive responses than you can continue by let him know that you see marriage as an extension of your lives. Even when you’re already married, nothing much going to chance in your life – you’ll still go enjoying your life, having your own life and your own job. And that, yes, you still go down on him. Let him know that you love your life now and it will stay the same way after the marriage. It also means that whatever you both do know, you do for love, and there’s no reason why you can’t keep doing it in the future. And he doesn’t have to worry about that life as he knows it will continue, but that it will be better. That bond will give you both the strength to realize your dream.
Big M #2 Go somewhere else without him…take your time
Don’t be worry you might be make his heart hurt because guys love to have their own time to themselves. Enough time to enjoy with the boys – having beer or catching polo on the box. Plan some holidays with your girlfriends and organize a week or two away. See if he can feel the absence of you and how it feels when he has to live his single life without you by his side. Give him a week or two is enough to make him settling into the awkward and foreign world of being single. It will remind him into how beautiful and content having you as part of his life, everything you did together – from movies, to dinner, to just talking – will be missing.
Yet, chances are that while you’re around, he’s taking all his good fortune for granted. So, don’t feel hesitated of leaving him for few weeks but don’t go too long or bring along few guys or your plan will crush or getting worst. Take note: This exercise is not to make him jealous – and try to go off somewhere where phones aren’t readily available. A chat every few days should do the trick. It’s quit dangerous to play with boyfriend’s paranoia because he will think you’ll meet some other guy on your holiday and you know it’s not a good idea. Go away and enjoy yourself but emphasize the “all girls” of your getaway. Then, when you do speak on the phone, let him be the first to say “I miss you”.
Big M #3 Ask for his opinion
If you want to know how big this marriage thing to him, you have to dig into his heart. It’s important to know what he think, his point of view and how important this matter to him. Don’t be afraid asking for his opinion – his answers might be not what you want to hear, but at least you know what’s playing around his mind. Good communication is the key to success in every aspect of relationship, so don’t disregard his opinion especially when it has something to do with future of both of you. Discuss about marriage is not odd thing and if he ever think to hitch you, he will says positive thing about it and maybe interested to discuss more. At least, when the time is come – your boyfriend got down on one knee and proposed, you’re not feeling embarrassing or a bit odd.
Big M #4 Go for romantic trip together
No matter how long you’ve been together, but if you don’t have much quality time for each other, you are not going to know how strong your relationship is. Take a break or a month off and get away with your boyfriend far from work distractions. If you got the chances, why not take another two or three month off. Sounds crazy? But you’ll spend your whole life working – how often will you get the chance to be with the man you want to marry? Think yourself! People say that when a couple goes traveling together, one of two things happens: They either break up, or they get hitched. There’s nothing wrong with the relationship, it’s just missing some magic. The moments you get with him are short, so it essential to have quality time. But the only true quality time is lots of time.
You know how it feel, when you’re far away from crazy work and it’s only the two of you showering love with mind free. You’ll remember it was like to wake up besides a man you love, have great sex and going out for afternoon work. You won’t forget what it was like to talk for hours with the man you love and likewise, he’ll remember why he adores you. But best of all, he’ll recall why you make such a good twosome, and why he should ask you to become one, forever. Well. At least, what you do is worthy.
Big M #5 Get on with your own thing / Mind your own business
Don’t make you’re look so desperate waiting for his proposal. Keep going with your daily life and do your own thing as usual. Don’t let he think twice whether you’re the right person for him. Do something that matters to you; show him you’re not obsessed with waiting for a proposal. Tell him you’re thinking of looking for work in another city, or that you believe living overseas for a while would be fantastic. But don’t announce this as though it’s a confirmed deal; let him know you’re pondering it, and make it clear you’d love him along for the ride.
Concentrate with your job and do the things you’ve always wanted to: Go for volunteer work, yoga classes or plan some business with friends. Even you see him less, it worthy because you already show him you’re a woman who has her own life and ambitious. Guys love women who can stand on their own feet – it excites them and at the same time frightens them. And once he sees “your life”, he’ll probably want to be a permanent part of it. Doing your own thing is a win-win situation, if he still not thinking of hitches you or you’re not end up with him, you’re not losing anything – at least you having fun getting on with your life. And it’s better than waiting for Mr Terminally Single to make a move.
Big M #6 The ultimatum
You already discuss about marriage topic, and you always brought up that thing into the conversation many times gently and patiently; when you think the time has come and there’s still no signs he’s going to make a proposal then it might be time for an ultimatum. Tell him, you’ve been together for so long and everything is under control – your relationship running smoothly and you both don’t have any money problem. So, now is the time for something more serious and it’s time for commitment and having family. Don’t afraid to tell what you want for the relationship and why. You don’t want to be “girlfriend” forever and at your age now you want to be married. To lessen the chances of this turning into a showdown, you could include a timeline in your ultimatum. Work out what you need and give him an option: It might be in a year, a month or maybe a week. That’s your call.
However, you should ready with the result. Whatever ends up happening, you’ll uncover the truth. Whether his phobia of marriage or fear of commitment, then it’s time to set him straight or choose to say good bye. But whatever you do, don’t hard-sell the idea of marriage. If you want it to last, he has to agree to the plan for the right reasons. If he doesn’t, then you can guarantee he’ll resent it in the years to come.
An ultimatum gives your boyfriend two choices: Marry me or live without me. In fact, it backs both of you into a corner. It’s important to show him how important marriage is to you. But there’s no point laying down a final demand and then not standing by it. You dare to give choices, than you must dare to keep your own words. You must be wiling to leave the man you love if he doesn’t propose. Hopefully it shouldn’t come to this; if he really loves you, he’ll be on one knee before you get near the door.
For all of you out there, remember, love is for all! HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY.
