Desire for serious relationship but afraid to freak him out? Now you’re ready to dot with commitment but not sure whether your man feel the same way. It’s been few years you’re in relationship but he doesn’t seem to navigate and take you both forward – notch on more serious scale. Well, who doesn’t want to get closer to a man you crazy about? No want says a woman can’t speak out her mind and talk about the future first, but asking a man for commitment or tighter the bond is not an easy task. After all, many men are perfectly happy keeping things between the two of you the same… indefinitely. Any wrong words from you might scare him and make him change his mind. We all realized all this while it is men who make all those wooing, take a move and of course they think it’s also their responsibility to decide how or when they should go to the next level. However there’s time when women should take an action especially when it was something to do with commitment, responsibility and future. I didn’t say we can’t trust any men to take a move but sometimes we can’t wait too long for them to make up their mind. How about if they never think about it? So, why not give a try? You might be get hitch soon. Whose know? So how do you give your love a nudge without causing him to jump ship?

Love level #1 Seriously dating

You went for dates about a month and at the end of each date you both have a lovey-dovey kiss and you both agree to do it again… soon. You feel that love and closer to him but you don’t think your relationship will go anyway since your status with him still ambiguous. You want to establish some sort of romantic rhythm but he doesn’t seem care about it. Maybe he felt comfortable enough with the way how’s your relationship grown up and don’t think about moving forward. If you don’t say anything, he might think you also feel the same way. Besides, he might feel not ready or fears sacrificing his time for steady dates with you. You know, it’s all about freedom and commitment – so he can come and go as he likes and he don’t have to give any reason. But when it comes into commitment and future, women are more concerned and you know it’s a time to do something and make alteration so the love you’ve been shower on him have it’s direction.

Ok, now you want to make he commit and make you feel special to him and become more than a valuable commodity. Do lot of plans and don’t wait for him to call you. Make a romantic dates – show him how affectionate you’re. Talk about many things and full his life with happiness and joy. Show him how wonderful his life with you around him. Don’t forget to take care about his life schedule so he realizes that having you as his steady girlfriend wasn’t making any change to his personal routine. Don’t stop making plans from time to time until he’s make used to the moment having time with you. Once you get busy later and don’t have much time for him, he will come to you himself to make more regular dates with you well ahead of time. One more thing – when you’re out together, don’t forget to emphasis to him that, yes, the two of you are in fact dating.

Love level #2 Saying the three magic words

“I love you” is the Holy Grail of relationship speak. It’s not easy words to hear and to say and some people hesitate and take a long time to spring the sentiment even to the person they love. You want to tell him how much you love him but you afraid he will reject you and sure it will hurt your feeling and annihilate all your dreams to posses his love. You’re terrified of being rejected and you don’t want to take the risk – but you still want to make sure he’s in love with you. The best way is let him says the words himself so you don’t have to wait any longer. But how you want get him to say it first?

Why it’s hard to saying “I love you”? Maybe he’s not sure about his feeling yet – or he got not ideas about how you feel – or he don’t find any appropriate time to spell out his feelings. Maybe you should show him more your affectionate feeling – get him used to hearing the love words by peppering it into your conversations. You can say -you love the way he making jokes - love how’s he smile – or love every time he cherish you. Create a romantic moment, look deep into his eyes and talk with them. Show how much you want his love and smooth touch is important. It can shows the hidden love inside you and believe me he can feel that power if you really mea it. Other than that, you’ll need to be more proactive. Grab a playful situation and run with it rather than waiting for an intense moment. Use each time you both together for something that can touches his feeling; make him feel blissful to be with you. Maybe that beautiful feeling will loosed him up and make him to profess his love to you first and of course with his own eagerness. Well, it’s all about the right time and the right place. What do you think?

Love level #3 Being V.I.P

If you think things was going right between the two of you, of course you want to know whether you’re the only want in his life and not just one of his special girlfriends. You had no idea whether he sees you as his perfect match because deep in your heart you already admit him as someone important now and in the future. You want to know if he also sees you as a good match. Ask yourself, “Does he ever include me in his future planning?” If you ever think about this that’s mean he’s not yet having an official talk with you. So, if you still not sure or don’t have any clue you’re his one and only, you should find out what in his mind – what he think about the relationship. Does he see you as a perfect match?

Choose the best time when you’re together. Start the conversations with some jokes – then slowly tackle his mood to talk about your relationship. Let both of you remind the wonderful moment you’ve been through together and at the time you meet him. While he was enjoyed the conversation, ask him if he’s seeing someone else beside you. Prepare yourself for his answers. If he just shrugs or trying to avoid your questions, follow up with playful by asking how many girls in his list. Remember to remain calm no matter what he might answer you. If he admits he’s dating around, talk calmly how long you’re willing to be one of many. Give him time to think but do it with your maturity and not your neediness. Tell him you’re growing out of the dating around thing and you need to know whether he’s preparing to move to the next stage with you.

Don’t forget to come back with the issue at the cut-off date and get your answer. Well, if you think it’s too risky or seems too direct, there’s always a way: Inspiring a bit of jealousy. Tell him there’s someone asking to have blind date with you and you don’t know what to do. If you’re the one and important to him, he will realize that he should catch you A.S.A.P before you hook by other men. Well, if he doesn’t say anything, it’s a time to meet another guy. Why waiting for a guy that mess around?

Love level #4 Getting hitched

Your friend who just knew her man a few months ago had been tying the knot but you which have been together for three years still dying waiting for your man to pop the question. How long you should wait? Is it for another five to ten years? When your mom asks you about it, then you realize it’s a time to think about your future. Although you’ve been discussed tying the knot for few times, but you didn’t see any sign he will propose to you. And every time you want to fixate the issue, you’re stopped by thinking that he might feel like he’s been rushed into this major decision. So, how do you want to make him aware of your interest in a life-long commitment?

We all know that some single men always have problem when it come into commitment in relationship. After all, men can’t get rid the ideas they might loose all the freedom and enjoyment of being single when they get marriage. Your task is let him know that the great times won’t vanish even if his status change. Make him aware of the beautiful life after marriage and the flexibility. It’s not like what he thinks. Plan for fun outings with your happily hitched friends to show him life doesn’t stop once you being his bride. This might open his heart to think about proposing you.

If he still can’t get your intent, try a more direct approach. Maybe you should show him you’re serious about securing your future. Tell him that you love him and it’s your hope to be with him, but you can’t wait for him forever. Set your timeline in the back of your mind, then be ready to move on if he doesn’t fit into your plans. Maybe it’s too hard for him make decision on the spot but it will force him to evaluate his. Well, if he really loves you, it doesn’t need another word from you.