In public eyes, she’s look pity and suffering. Everyone knew his man had been cheated on her. But, why until now she’s still standing by his side? In relationship, accepting your partner for who he is, are good thing but if his behaviours are more into flirting and affairs, would you continue stand by him? Maybe it’s okay to give him second chance if he regret for what he did and asking for forgiveness. But, if he takes advantage of your generosity, is it worthy to get heart broken for another infidelity? Some girls, so patient in maintaining their relationship to prove how good they are in keeping their guy stay beside them. No matter how bad things get, they just can’t let their cheating guys go.

The question is, why? Does it for life warranty, financial support, dignity, selfishness or love? No matter how much we guess the reason why and feel sorry for them, for sure, these girls have their own point of view regarding their man. However, staying with man who continuously betrays you in long-term is not healthy. It may causes to depression, boredom or mentality problem if you keep pushing yourself into the unfair relationship. Why annihilate your future and changes in finding a better man just for one cheating guy? So, now, should you forgive him or, walk away, fast?

Keep staying or let go?

Sometimes, women in love keep the other eyes close when things goes wrong with their man to avoid more troubles in future. They believe that men have their transition time at certain ages and everything going to be alright when that phases elapse. But, we all know, there’s no such thing! Men who stray shouldn’t eligible for forgiveness. But, every woman has their own reasons to stay and maintain their relationship. Married women who have children are more compromise to protect her family and normally they will give more than one chances for their partner to change their bad behaviors. They choose to stay and put extra effort to solve problems for the sake of the kids and themselves.

Actually trying to work things out is a good reason because if they can survives and start a new life as a couple, it will give a good example to the kids to stick into commitment. Some women prefer to work things out because they knew problems wouldn’t solve if they run away and afraid to face the truth. I believes certain mistakes (continues cheater or physically or mentality castigation) don’t deserves any forgiveness, but all humans make mistakes. To work things out and gives the second chance might not bring into sudden alteration, but, at least, you already give a try. It’s better than do nothing, right? How about you?

Never ending infidelity or last battle?

“If he’s unfaithful once, no wonder if he’ll do it again!” Words of advice we always heard when man betrayed his wife. Does it mean we can’t trust our partner anymore? Well, we all know how painful we are when our man betrayed our trust and our love and having an affair behind our back. But nothing is more hurtful than catching him in the act! If you, would you forgive him? You knew your men cheated on you and you bring that issue into discussions - he asking for your forgiveness – and you give him second chance to prove his loyalty and desirability to go on with the relationship. That’s okay! At least, you’re not watching that “tiger show” in front of your eyes. Speechless, shocking or slapping him might be the answers, but to forgive or give him another chance is far more.

Does it make senses to forgive if he dares to do it vividly? Why protect someone who doesn’t respect you? It’s not worthy and he doesn’t deserve you or your love. If you think to take him back because the memories - about the time you’ve been spend together and how good he is in the past or other reasons doesn’t give any big point for you to pretend nothing ever happens. When considering whether to forgive him, ask yourself, “What’s in it for me?” Remember, you deserves better. No matter how good he is in the beginning of the relationship, don’t regret or blame yourself for leaving him because of his infidelity, but think about your future.

Is there any hope?

Some women give all their heart and soul to their man with hope they’ll appreciate them forever. So, when their man being unfaithful, it’s hard for them to forgive because it leave deep wound in their heart. However, when it comes to love, women become weak as they believe that their true love will make him change. But, does reformed rakes really exists in reality? Are you sure your man will change if you give him every chance he needs? You can’t denied how much you love him when you’re ready to forgive him for cheating and give him another go to correct his mistakes – on the proviso no more infidelity. He confess for his sin and seemed so devastated at the thought of losing you and said that you’re the one in his life – and you believes him just like that.

You believe that by giving him another chance and show him your love will make everything alright but it can be an unrealistic hope. He regrets and promises not to cheat on you anymore, but how long he will stand up for his words? He’s already gains your trust but it doesn’t mean he’ll chance forever. No wonder if he’ll do it again – as people says, “leopard never changes it spots”. So, if you find him did wrong again behind your back, don’t hesitate to leave him and never ever take any excuses from him. I believe everyone deserves one more chance, but if he abuses your trust yet again, nothing much we can do about it other than let him go….freely! Good for your happiness and for better future.

Want to maintain and keep the relationship alive?

It’s sad to know that your partner never put an effort to change their behaviour, but it doesn’t mean you despair or losing your hope and walk away just like that. If you really think that the relationship can be salvaged and you believe you both can work on it, keep going. Also make sure he wants the same things and ready to make commitment. Plan something which will give benefits for both of you but don’t play the victim – set out some ground rules. Maybe you both can talk with a psychologist or counselor to learn new skills together. Besides, by giving each other a second chance will teaches you both to be more responsibility to the relationship. A relationship which is reformed from failure is stronger and the experience will give you strength to face other obstacles in future.

You might think it is dangerous by taking risk and put yourself into unreliable hopes because at the end, it might cause you to lose yourself, which could be more heartbreaking and lonely in the long run. But, standing up for yourself is more important than standing by him. One day you’ll realize nothing to regret in life when we know what we’d done make us a better person tomorrow and in future.

Breaking the promises?

It’s easy to make promises but not everyone can do exactly as they had promised to. So, if your man says he’s going to put hundred percent efforts to overhaul himself, take a deep look and remember one important thing: Actions speak louder than words! Nothing will changes if he just makes promises, do his part and follow you to counseling room yet doesn’t applied it into his daily routine. Don’t be deceived by his words but pay attention to his actions. Use your instinct wisely, you’ll know if he’s committed or not and don’t let him take advantage on your kindness.

Don’t let love cover your eyesight and your assessment, be rational; loving him doesn’t mean you have to be in a relationship with him, right? Show him your compassion, sympathy and another chance, but don’t forget to give the same opportunity to yourself. If he really means it, he should show it, sincerely. And it’s not only you who makes the move but he should show his earnest too. Remember, it takes two. It won’t work if he doesn’t put fresh energy into relationship and let you handle the paddle.

Facing the future – alone or together?

We can’t expect what might happen in future but while you both facing crucial time, it’s important to give support to each other. So, when he takes steps to change, you should also take a look at your own input. Don’t assume everything going to be alright if he work on it and you’re already free from take any responsibilities just because he the one who did wrong. Now, he needs you more than anyone else, and you should be there to gives support and together nurture the relationship if it’s going to survive. If he regrets for his mistakes and you already forgive him, do something that could remind you both to the time when the world is yours, the wonderful moment you’ve been through together and forget all the bad things. You can go for a date or having a romantic dinner together to boost confidence in each other.

It might sound ridiculous giving him too much attention despite he betray you, but you’ve been come such a long way, being together again after went through many obstacles, it’s worth your time and this might brought you both closer than ever. Actually by giving him a chance is good, because it also open your eyes that you both should wake-up from a long sleep and start to refresh your relationship. What I’m trying to say here is, never ever take your partner for granted and remember, no matter how long you’ve been together or how close you both are, don’t neglected to nurture the relationship from time to time and don’t forget to make it together.