Still waiting for your prince charming to sweep you off your feet and bring eternal tales? The story about everlasting love which sometimes influences the way you think about love and whatever you’re looking for in relationship. Why not? Everyone has their own dream, a thought of finding your true love and ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after with the one you love. The time you dream of lying in your prince charming arm and hoping to wake up next to him. But truth is – after that ride into the sunset, comes the morning after and the morning after that.

The reality never easy to accept – every relationship requires ongoing maintenance to keep it working. That’s where lots of budding romances start to hit the wall – not because they’re flawed but because of expectations that are completely unattainable. Sometimes what you believe in love is not exactly the right things – which give us misguided message about what we should expect and demand from love. So, take a deep look and think if you ever believe in the following love myths and rethink about it next time in future before you decide to bet your love life.

Love Myth #1 Love is everything

How many of your friends think that love is over everything else in his/her life? Some people sacrifices themselves for love to show their love to their partner hoping to get their true love. They believe that love conquers all. Rushing into living together, share the love and promise to overcome all the problems together no matter how hard it is. But, how long it will be? Do you think love is really the answers to all the problems? If yes, then why so many couples which is married for love but always end up with divorce at the end.

Clearly, there are so many problems that love just can’t conquer – such as differing emotional needs, opposing ideas about commitment and more complicated issues like relationship abuse and addictions. “Although your feelings for each other can help you pull you through some of the tough times, a relationship needs more than love to make it work,” says psychologies, Kali Hume. “In order to go the distance you need to be able to communicate, negotiate, and be flexible and giving. Compatibility is just as important as love and often your ability to get on won’t be clear until you’ve been spent time together and discovered whether you’re a good match or rub each other up the wrong way.”

Love Myth #2 Love at first sight

Sound familiar? Ask yourself how many times you have been drawn like a magnet to a guy who is drop dead gorgeous, only to talk to him and discover he’s self-centred, clueless or lacking in personality? And how many times have you met a guy who didn’t appeal much at first only to find the more you get to know him the more he grows on you. So, if you met someone and can’t take your eyes out of him – it’s not love, it is attraction. Lust and love is a different thing and many of us can’t differentiate which is love and which is lust. Lust is something we normally felt at first sight, love is built on something deeper and stronger. It takes time to build the trust, respect, intimacy and fondness that provides the true foundation for love.

However, we can deny there’s love at first sight but it always an expectation that there will be instant fireworks when you meet the perfect person. And when it doesn’t happen at your first date, you think your relationship could never last. Most of women always think that true love is when they meet someone that can pushes all their buttons and make them feel very special at the same time. But, does it really love they’re looking for? If you really want true love, give your head out of the clouds and give some of the men around you a chance to make you very happy. Don’t let your strong feelings of attraction overrode your judgement. Instead of looking for love at first sight you should be searching for more than attraction and sexual chemistry. It’s important that a partner is a good fit in other areas – so look for someone with a good moral code, a sense of self-worth and respect for you.

Love Myth #3 there is only one true love

Many of us believe there’s only one true love and think nobody can replace your love one. Some people eager to sacrifice their live and happiness to get together with someone whom they think ‘the one’ which is made for them. Others eager to do anything to get what they one because they believe couldn’t meet someone else like the one they have now. When in love, people become happy, blissful and feel great all the time. These make them uncontrolled and set on their mind there’s no other perfect or potential partners for them other than the one they have now.

There’s something very powerful about the idea that somewhere out there is your soul mate and it will only be a matter of time before fate brings the two of you together. If invest in this belief it makes you feel special and unique (and give you excuse for being single). Come on. Why punish yourself for unreal believe? There are more six billion people in the world – so there are probably hundreds or thousands of men you could meet, fall for and be content with. If not – maybe you’re sabotaging relationships by trying to live in an unattainable fantasy world.

Love Myth #4 Love is unconditional

What is the different between friends and lover? What makes love life more difficult to handle and why so many unsolved problems occur in relationship? Why it is hard to forgive someone your love when he made mistakes then you forgive your friend? Anyone who believes the saying “Love means never having to say you’re sorry” needs their head examined. In fact, the complete opposite is true – for love to last you need to say sorry, whenever you’re in wrong and thanks, whenever he/she done something for you – so your partner feel appreciate and reassured that you care about his feelings. Relationships are about give and take.

Never ever neglected your partner feelings even both of you are in deep relationship. “I understand him/her very well. She’s/he’s going to be okay later.” If you use to think easy like this all the time, your relationship might be in trouble one day. You can’t pretend understand people very well because people always change over time. If both of you facing problem and don’t talk about it and make efforts to sort it out, the issue may end up causing resentment and distance in your relationship. “Far from being unconditional – a committed relationships involves many conditions – that we will be faithful, sexually active, caring, supportive and trustworthy,” says Hume. “In fact, it’s when these conditions are not fulfilled that relationships break because one or both partners feel their needs are not being met.”

Love Myth #5 Love is the key

Before you believe that love is the key, ask yourself what is love really means to you. Does it is something that make you feel just happy, incentive to stick to your diet, sexually fulfilled and content your empty weekend? If you believe that being in love can completely makeover your life, you’re fallen into and age old trap. We can’t deny love can make us feel exhilarated, appreciated and special – but that doesn’t mean it can cure every problem with your life and self-esteem. No matter how in love you are, you still carry some emotional baggage. Your personality, goals and insecurities don’t all just vanish because someone is whispering sweet nothings in your ear.

Even it’s hard to believe, love is not “the key”, it is not “the answer” – it can be wonderful but it won’t pay your bills, boost your career or make you love your body – it takes dedication, organization and self-knowledge to achieve those improvements in life. The more work you do on yourself so that you’ve got your act together – the happier your love life will be.