How to Fall Out Of Love

Love….when it was there, is the sweetest thing to be experienced. But when it was away from your life it can broken your heart more than your imagination. Each of us has faith to feel this pain at least once in our life. Love come and goes….and you have to continue your life to find your true life without killing yourself. What are you going to do when your boyfriend fall in love with someone else, living you without any notice, furthermore without your expectation? First, you should know what happen to you when the only men you love dump you – have not enough sleep, always cry day and night, can’t eat, can’t work and the worst is you’re in the process of ruin your life and wasting your time. If it happen to you means you’re too obsessed with your ex.

So, what is a must step you should take the moment you know you’re not follow the right road anymore? Just forget about him and give up hoping to get him back! As long as he’s still in your mind, you really can’t recover until you do. Of course it’s hard to get over a lost love and you have no idea what’s going to happen to you during the recovery process and your future especially when your relationship already lasted for years. The right key to hastening the recovery is to understand what people go through post break-up and to arrange for the process to take place in a systematic way. The best news is, once you discover how to recover, you’re much less likely to have such a severe break-up ever again.
Find out here how to fall out of love….and land on your feet faster without wasting your time hoping for him to come back to your life again. No matter how deep your feelings for him, you can be back to normal in less than two months if you take these steps…

Step #1 Make a Clean Break
Stop seeing your ex! Period. The only way to recover is to go “cold turkey.” If you keep seeing him, you’re like drug addict begging for “just one more“ hit and it was just so embarrassing. Remember, don’t “just be friends.” Keep it away from your mind if you ever thinking of to be remain as his best friend or what so ever, because for sure you can’t make it and will make your situation get worse. Each time you get close enough to your ex to get the good parts of what you once had, you’ll get the bad parts too.
A clean break is not possible if your home or apartment’s filled with things that remind you of him. So, take any clothes he left, mementos that remind you of him, pictures of him or both of you together, the CDs he gave you and throw them in a box and put it away and if possible, the best is to throw it far away…far from your life. Stop calling & thinking of him! Make yourself busy – hang out with friends and avoid form staying alone because it will bring your mind come back to him.

Step #2 Playing a new Tune
Music has a particular way of stirring up your emotions – and causing instant pain. So, re-programme the radio button for “his” station to anything else, and change stations immediately if a sad song comes on. Try not to revisit your favourite haunts for a while, and avoid any of the places you went with him. But do not let yourself being alone because it can make you feel lonely that can lead you to think about your past and of course your memory with him will come back to your mind that can make you feel sad. Also, stay away from friends of your ex.

Step #3 STOP calling him
You probably want to call him a dozen times a day, to hear his voice and to tell him anything. To gain control over this self-destructive impulse, keep a notebook with you, and whenever you get the urge to call him, write down whatever you think you want to tell him instead. By using this notebook, you’ll stop obsessing and the thoughts will diminish.
Talking about your ex with others is almost as bad as talking with him. Don’t indulge in long, commiserating chats with friends. Just say, “I prefer not to talk about it,” and that should close the subject with most people and at the same time will help you to reduce your memory against him.

Step #4 Jot down his bad habit on his”Cime Sheet”
When you break up, you often forget the bad times and yearn for the good ones. So, before you forget, write down every nasty, mean thing he ever did. Document the lies you decided to overlook , the time he embarrassed you in front of people, the rude way he acted towards your mother, the passes he made at tour friends, the time  you were sick and he didn’t come to your side or the time he totally forgot your birthday, etc. The Crime Sheet will help you to resurrect and redirect your buried anger – and lift your depression.

Step #5 Write the final love letter
It’s not easy to start with a new pattern of life when in sudden your life change especially when you have to go through your day without him – no communication and no one you can talk to whenever you need too. After three weeks or so of total non-communication with your ex, you’ll surely have a lot of things you want to say to him. However he’s no longer part of your life anymore. So, what are you going to do to stop from giving hope to the relationship and forget about him? How do you want to continue with your life without share a part of it anymore? They could be poetic reminders of all that was right about your relationship, with an appeal to try again, or they could be just a long recital of what he did wrong. Whatever it is, write it in a letter to him – but don’t mail it. Put it away. Assume that you already communicate with him. Just writing will make you feel better.

Step #6 Banish thoughts of him – in a snap
Despite everything you’ve done so far – the notebook, letter, etc – you’ll still keep thinking, “If only I could get him back, everything will be alright this time.” Or, “I just wish I could see him one more time.”Stop these thoughts by wrapping a rubber band around your wrist. When you have obsessive thoughts about him, snap the rubber band. Slowly but surely, you’ll condition yourself so the thoughts will stop by themselves as soon as they start. Try it every time you want he out of your mind.

Step #7 Don’t get even – get angry
As your recovery processes, you may find yourself thinking of revenge – reporting him to the IRB, sabotaging his new relationship, telling his friends about some terrible thing he did, etc. First, remember, there’s nothing wrong with thinking these thoughts. In fact, they can help you because they’re a sign you’re shedding your victim status.
Maybe you should call him, but just to express your anger. Select three or four of his most outrageous “crimes”, rehearse the call, and do it. Be sure to just tell him off, then hang up. Don’t get into arguments – just rattle it all off and say, “Goodbye!” Even if he surprises you and start to apologize, hang up. If you feel you still can’t control your urge for revenge, make the call and then turn to your notebook and start a new section – where you compose the letter to the IRB, chart exactly how you are going to push him out of the window, etc. This will cure you of feeling powerless – one of the worst symptoms of heartbreak.

Step #8 Fix a “Sob Hour”

When do you get to cry? Well, your “sob hour” is the time to let it all out. Here’s how it works: Pick a time of day when you’ll be undisturbed, say 9pm. Bring a radio into your bathroom along with your notebook and your “Last Love Letter.” Then play his fave song, run cold water in the bathtub, stick your feet in it, sit at the edge of the bathtub, read the letter and your notebook and have yourself a good cry. The key is to make yourself physically uncomfortable. How many of these hours should you do? As long as you feel like crying over him. This way, it’ll wear off. When it does, you’re almost cure.

Step #9 “Act Out Your Solo Role”

Force yourself to act peppy, even if you feel wretched. And soon you’ll feel good. This may sound crazy, but method actors have used this technique for years to get into the emotional state they need for a scene. Besides, you don’t want to give your ex the satisfaction that you’re moping around. And, Mr Right could pop into your life right now, and you wouldn’t want to be so busy carrying a torch for your ex that you’d miss the opportunity of a lifetime. Expose yourself to new experiences; broaden your horizons.

Step #10 Don’t Ever Cry To A New Guy

A new guy is the best distraction. But resist the temptation to cry on his shoulder and tell him about your ex, no matter how sympathetic he seems. Enjoy your new relationship. Use it to gain confidence and put more distance between you and your heartbreaks.