Being in love for the first time? Dig…dug…dig…dup…your heart beat faster, your mind frozen and getting blur, your tongue unspeakable and everything goes wrong every time you meet him. You trying to be cool and natural but your feelings won’t let you even to breathe normally. Why? A budding romance can leave you as nervous as a poodle, but how do you confront that new-love jitters without looking too eager? Your nerve may spoil that special moment which only happen once in your life. Don’t worry gal, take a look here.

Everyone has a first love – you, me and others. Fall in love for the first time is the great, pure and wonderful feeling to have. Sometimes you don’t understand how it works inside you. That guy they the one they weaved their dreams around. Isn’t that warm feeling wonderful? But if you ask your friends who’ve been in love, they’ll tell you it’s far more exciting, if not complex, than a fuzzy feeling. The mere sight of him will make your palms sweat; set the butterflies in your stomach fluttering; and when he acknowledges your presence, climbing Mount Everest will seem a breeze. Unfortunately, while love can make you do many a splendid thing, it can also cause you to commit a few relationship faux pas. Here’s five ways how you can get through one of life’s unforgettable moments, face it confidently and make it a success.

Smart rule #1 Develop a cool-cat ego

Ever heard of the expression “too much of a good thing is bad”? As much as you’d love to hear his voice every 10 seconds, follow him every where become his shadow, the reality is, it’s a bad, bad idea. It’ll make you seem desperate for his attention and lacking a life of your own – which isn’t why he fell for you in the first place. You don’t have to stick to him like a plaster or what so ever – stay to your freedom and don’t go to close because it will make him feel uncomfortable. While it‘s cool that he knows you’re into him, love him and always want to be with him, take it to the extreme and it’s called stalking! To love someone in healthy way, you don’t have struggle consorting him, showing too much love or even “feed” him – enough if he knows you care about him, think and love him. A girl is true “girl-friend material” only if she has her own life and interests to focus on. It may sound romantic, but any guy will tell you that having a girl make her entire world revolve around him is a turn-off. Beware gal, when you meet your true love, sometimes it will make you insane. Different person has different way of showing their love – whatever way you choose to love him, make sure you’re under control and don’t forget to keep half of your heart for yourself.

Smart rule #2 Speak up

Why girl who dare to speak up her mind is more successful than those who just keep quite and follow what others says? Girl who speak up about what they want and believe in come across as far more attractive than those who only make great arm candy. On that note, learn to speak your mind no matter how hard you have to face the situations. Talk to variety of people, learn how to communicate confidently and boost your appearance. Don’t be afraid or even feel hesitate to say what you think, because if you continuously keep your mouth shut, you’ll never get to know each other. No man wants to find out months into the relationship that he never really knew his girlfriend after all. Remember that the sexiest thing a girl can do to guy is to show him something new, be it a fresh perspective on world politics, a video game or music. Show him you have your own identity, opinions and you can stay on your own feet. It’s mean you and him both have responsibilities about how the relationship will grown up from now and also in the future. Girls, please…don’t let guys control your life, be brave and speak up your mind when and where it needs. He’s going to respect you more.

Smart rule #3 Be a sweet little mystery

Mystery girl, secret; that’s why he excited to get know more about you. It’s doesn’t mean you have to hide your identity or your life background but you don’t have to reveal everything - irrelevant, bored story which can turn him off. It’s too soon in the early relationship. Even if he was your soul mate, don’t give away too much about yourself or there’ll be nothing left for his imagination. Don’t stat babbling your life story, family secrets, bad habits or weird fetishes, as soon as you start dating. Just leave it to time and nature. Let it flows naturally – maybe he start asking you those question soon, so there’s a point. That way, he’ll keep coming back for more fascinating facts about you. Both of you start every date with a great, surprising conversation. Remember, guys won’t want to read the rest of the book if they already know the whole story! But avoid from keep too much secret, he might get tired playing hide and seek game.

Smart rule #4 Give him breathing room

Experiencing new emotions such as jealousy, insecurity or even fear of losing someone special may make you possessive. But it’s okay, so long as you don’t start treating him like chattel! That’s the obvious mistakes first love girl always made. Trust is essential to any relationship. Without it, you’ll only have fear, paranoia and tears. If you can’t believe in him, how could on earth you can go further in your relationship. It’s still a very long journey to go through together and there are more obstacles you have to face. Sometimes, first love couples can’t be separated – they’re holding tight to each other anyway, everyway. They can’t differentiate closeness or possessiveness. Normally, girls often trap in this emotions circle because of their sensitive feelings but guys often look intimacy in the different point of view. They easily getting bored with sudden closeness even they‘re feeling excited for the first time. So, who’s going to hurt here? You, girls! So, don’t push your man too soon to be with you all the time. Let he come to you when he’s ready to have more commitment. Give him space to breath freely.

Smart rule #5 Comfort factor is paramount

Feeling comfortable while being with each other is the most important to start the relationship, maintain it and keep it warm all the time. But the jitters of being in love are a lot like having your period or attend an interview. Your body goes through many changes that’ll effect the state of your moods and emotions. But take it as another step towards maturity. And as your relationship deepens and moves towards your first kiss, remember: Just be yourself and don’t pretend like you’re an expert trying to do more than you know. You don’t have to impress him so he will proud with you – there’s no such thing. Just do it with your heart, let it goes naturally and the most important is to ensure he’s feeling comfortable and secure. Just do it with confidence and keep it warm and friendly so, it will be the greatest moment he’ll remember deep in his heart.