5 easy steps to get the LIFE you want
You think, you’re living in the life you wanted most – have a great jobs, wonderful friends, own boyfriend of your dream and have a bright future. But why you still feel unfulfilled, unhappy and never satisfied - like there’s something missing in your life. You just don’t understand why you’re not feeling happy as it supposes to be whereas you’re living the way you desire for. Ask yourself, if you’re happy enough with your life now, why when you’re wake up every morning you still can’t feel that power to go through the whole day? You got that spirit at the beginning of your day but, by the end of the day, you started to feel tired, frustrated and snapping at everyone for no reason. You might be think it’s because of your work pressure, but it’s not that.
Is that a sign shows that you’re bored of your everyday routine? Sometimes, boredom come from daily activities where you let habit take over your life and end up in a comfort trap. If you’re not feeling inspired or challenged in your life, for sure, you need some changes to boost your happiness and scoring the life you want. We only get one life, so why not spend it doing stuff that makes you happy rather than settling? There’s nothing special about life if you didn’t feel alive or passionate about things around you and it doesn’t mean anything. You’re trap in a dull patch. So, enjoy your life while you still have it. If you’ve feeling like a half charged battery lately then it’s time to shake things up. Everyone falls into comfort traps; you’ve just got to know how to climb out. Dare to change your life and try new thing to get a better life. Here are five easy ways to boost your happiness and get into the wonderful and meaningful life.
Life #1 Identify what is wrong
You can’t see that comfort trap because you doing it every day and had been become a part of your life. So, you didn’t realize some of them make you feel unhappy and unsatisfied in your life. It doesn’t mean you need to be so happy so everyone will think you’re mad, but enough if you wake up and start your day with full of energy, feel excited and ready to make your day wonderful showering with pure happiness. So, find out that dull patch and see what needs to revamp?
The problem might be something inconsequential such as the lack of exercise, obsessive smoking or drinking or it’s about the job that you proud of. You might busy and your life is all about working, working and working; you never do anything else -going for holidays, spend time with your partner or join activity to nurture yourself. In short, you’re not enjoying your life. Ask yourself what you really want in your life. Do you really enjoy what you doing now? How about your boyfriend? Is he really makes you happy? Do you smoke too heavy?
Don’t lie to yourself and don’t afraid you will lose what you have, think about your happiness in future. Once you get the point, then think what you are going to do to revamp. List them out and work out what’s stopping you from achieving each point. Does it your fear which never leads you to change yourself? Or it’s you who allow them to block yourself from follow your heart? Because people that truly happy never allow any excuses to get in their way.
Life #2 Get motivated
It doesn’t mean you have to attend motivation class, but find something or someone that can inspire you to do what you want. You’re more passionate to reach your goal if they are someone or something that can boost your confidence and get your motivation in gear. Someone you’re admiring for their popularity, achievements or the attitudes which drive yourself to become like them – happy and successful. They might be your friends, relatives or celebrity. What makes them so passionate, enthusiastic and switched on? So, every time you feel tired, not in mood or losing interest in life, think of what they do to get more power and feel more energize. Share your problems with your friends or talk to people who’ve already pull themselves out of the comfort trap; they’ll have lots of great advice.
To pump up you energy and keep motivated, watching an inspiring movie, remember back your life before, set your life target or visiting places that make you feel alive. Put yourself into things that remind you of how crazy and wonderful life can be will push you to be more excited to get into the next step.
Life #3 Create a vision
If you’re already have power and strength to make a change, work out a plan. Give yourself enough time to achieve each point on your list. Take as much time as you need and don’t push yourself into the hard work – take it easy, do it with all your heart and passion and make sure you’re enjoying things you do. Life coach, Shannah Kennedy says, “Having something to strive for gives you a sense of purpose.” Give yourself an opportunity to take a challenge will allow your comfort zone to expand. It’s all about movement: Once you start, you’ll build momentum and things just start to happen from there. As time passing by, you will automatically understand your life direction and the way you want it to be.
Life #4 Make your dreams come true
You got the plan and you have a vision, now, you need to put a bit of effort to make your dreams a reality. Take action on every step you take but don’t overdo it. Think about what you will get in future, the rewards from the changes you’ve been made. Sure there are going to be sacrifices and tough decisions but keep it aside, remember what you have to gain. If you dare to step out from the comfort zone, then you’re ready to challenge yourself – do something new will really giving brand new you. Although you’re doing a lot of work, you still feel happy and comfortable with your life. You’ll find that life seems more easier because now you holding remote control of your life. You choose what you want to do and decide where to go. You’re free to make your life more interesting because you’re not trap in your old comfort zone any more. We all have a chance to revamp ourselves and our life too, so why not take it in the right direction?
Life #5 Get committed
Now you know what you want in your life, so make a commitment so that you can stick to it. It might be hard to do it alone – you can tell you friends or your family about your plan. Who know you’ll get their full support and this will make you more accountable to them. When you have support from some one close to you will make you become stronger, confidence and make your way easier. Think about people that loves you and want you to be happy will raise your spirit so you’ll not easily give up and coming back to your comfort trap. Pin your goal deep inside your mind, so every time you think you’re losing focus it will remind you of what are you looking for and where are you going. . Remember, to always reflect on what you’ve already achieved and congratulate yourself on it. Good luck!





Lilly,
Commented by Bill Emener on March 3, 2007 at 1:16 amExcellent Post!
Be careful, however… inherent in your suggestions is that a person actually could have some responsibility for their happiness.
(I hope you hear my tongue-in-cheek sarcasm…)
Bill
Hi Bill…Thanks for the compliment. I’m very sure and can see that everyone responsible to their own happiness. And we all know, there’s also some one out there which have to go through their life because they don’t have other choices. (I think I don’t have to mentioned here) These is only some guidances for someone out there who got the opportunity to make change in their life, felt grateful for life and looking for better life and pure happiness. We living in this world only for short time and everybody’s only looking for temporary contentment. That’s human! No one has right asking others to change their life. But, for those who realizes that we only got one chance to posses this life, then they’ll read this. And for those who don’t care, no constraint!
Commented by MiSs LiLy on March 3, 2007 at 8:55 amWell said!
Commented by Bill Emener on March 11, 2007 at 3:58 amThanks Bill. That’s fact. Looking forward to hear from you again.
Commented by MiSs LiLy on March 11, 2007 at 3:23 pmGood advice. English needs work but then so my Bisayan.
Commented by Sharon on April 11, 2007 at 9:54 amHi Sharon, thanks for the comment. Glad you still got my point. I still work on my English. By the way, thanks again for stopping by. Hope you enjoy the read. Looking forward too see you again.
Commented by MiSs LiLy on April 11, 2007 at 6:13 pmActually I am very unhappy with my life. But I am disabled and fighting the government and trying to fight my way out of what I feel is a trap.
Commented by Sharon on April 13, 2007 at 2:52 amHi Sharon, nice to see you again. It’s great when you already discover what is went wrong in your life. Take your time on bring yourself into the right life line and don’t push yourself into something that might make you feel unhappy. Focus into what you really want in your life and just neglected all the unimportant things. Make sure you doing things that make you happy and at the same time fulfill your life desires. By doing things you like help a lot in giving contentment into your life.
Commented by MiSs LiLy on April 13, 2007 at 9:14 amOther than that, you should first love your life and change where necessary but it doesn’t mean you have to change your whole life. As you said, trying to find a way out from things which you feel a trap is a good step. Once you out from the shell, it easier for you to go on with your life. Make yourself a free person and don’t care what other think about you. Go on with your life, face all the trouble bravely and don’t hesitate doing things you want to do.
Good luck Sharon. Hope you find the life you wanted most! Remember to love what you have than you’ll be more appreciate your life. Thanks for sharing.