In different situation, a man going out / travel more than the woman and leave a wife alone at home for many days  makes the her feel alone & lonely and start looking for other relationship and the husband which travel a lot also might looking for a partner or worst if he’s working with a woman. Ermmm….. the consequences are hard to determine when things go wrong. Either want to blame a guy because work too hard or a woman because not loyal to the husband. Anyway, a couple has their own responsibility to the relationship to make it work. However, women can fit to men lives easily but does man can fit into their lives? Find out the reasons for broken relationship and what the solution to it.

Fix It #1 Time Together

It used to be he spends too much time with his friends at the pub watching football. But as for you, now you’re headed for Happy Hours at the office café for the third time this week. What happens here is a woman become more successful than a man at work places, it becomes more necessary to share after-hours rituals – as men do – with their office buddies to build up relationships. It’s all part of being a career girl, and most men understand that. But if you chat about stressful sales targets and bald vice presidents after office hours three days in a row and leave him with nothing, but returns on TV and a Coke at home, he’s bound to start thinking of other ways to spend his time.

Normally women used to nag to get their men to come home earlier. However, guys they’re more liable to just find something else to do such as hang up with friends. A busy social life is a sign of success, but not all men want their partners to be successful. Some studies show that successful men are looking for traditional, stay-at home wives. Few girls think that their partner is not part of their work & social life make them tempted to start looking for someone who will. Men feel more appreciated if they’re invited to some of get-together party more often but women think it is not a good idea as they can maintain their professional with the colleagues without a partner. Ermmm….

So, how you want to fix this situation so that both of you can be together? The only way out of this deadlock is to meet half-way. Explain to him that the office gatherings are opportunities to hobnob or make your professional presence felt, and are important for your career progression. On the other hand, if you’re serious in your relationship, you have to spend time together – the very definition of the word “relationship” demands it. So, tell him you want to spend time with him also and be sure to do so.

Fix It #2 Intelligent Conversations

Every time you want to start to conversation, you have to think or sometimes have to study first what is the most intelligent conversation you can bring out as all the time the only thing you could talk to men about grocery shopping lists. And when you start to think about other topic (more sophisticated), you just out of idea as you were afraid he will think that you’re trying to test his knowledge or challenging him. Well, maybe he will ignore you. Actually women are more educated than they use to be. And smarter women are naturally going to demand smarter, more sophisticated conversation. So, when women want to discuss current issues with poorly-read men, they feel more than a little embarrassed – they are mortified. When your men start to think that you will be able to outsmart him at everything, then it is dangerous for your relationship. How you want to fix this?

If you know that his knowledge in certain areas is weak, try not to be tempted to demonstrate your superiority by teasing him. Remember, if the conversations turn towards something you’re not so familiar with, such as football or his favorite’s band, he would be whipping you   instead! Maybe as a couple you should try to stick to common ground in conversations. That way, no one is ever inferior to the other and everything is a lot more pleasant.

Fix It #3 Baby Matters

Who should decide when both of you can have a baby? If before he will jogs to 7-Eleven to pick up a pack of Durex when the weekend rolls around. But now, seems like you schedule IUD replacements with your gynae every few years. Why?

Nowadays, most of women less excited about having babies than they used to be. Babies deal severe stumbling blocks to career progression, greatly affect your investment planning and force you to practically give up your old social circle for a new one made up of mothers and their screaming toddlers – not exactly positive motivation to undergo nine months of pregnancy and hours of painful labour.

Apart of your own concern, your man also thinks about his biological clock which may explain why he’s trying to get you pregnant all of a sudden. They worry because according to study, as men age, the amount and quality of their sperm decline and this translates into a lower chance that any particular act of unprotected sex will lead to pregnancy. What’s more, men are also worried about when they have children due to many reasons.

Well, if he wants too he can’t have a baby without you, that’s for sure. But if he’s willing to take on postnatal responsibility and you can find it in your heart to take on the prenatal tasks, then why not? Yes, it means going through pregnancy and the rigours of childbirth, but it still makes it worth it. The real question to ask here is: “Who has a better paying job?” And if you can answer the question, then the decision is yours.

Fix It #4 Trophy Partners

It used to be…You are his pride and joy….and possession. But you want him to look nice, smell good, sound smooth, feel great and be gentle …all the time.

This called Trophy Phenomenon, and nowadays women are as demanding as men when it comes to how they expect their partners to look. It partly explains why apparently one third of women in the US are dating younger men – because they have not yet developed unsightly paunches, bald spots or bad teeth.

Men have always wanted their partners to be the envy of their peers, but women are catching on. You’re calling more of the shots in your relationships, and this means being able to make more demands on your partners…including how they look, smell and behave in public. Under the old rules, only women cared about how they looked. Physical appearance mattered because there was the constant threat of being dumped for a younger, perlier set of chops. It was a time when women to great lengths to ensure that they remained desirable in their partner’s eyes.

Not so anymore. In fact, one can say the tables have turned. Today, most women don’t need men’s money, so in order to remain consistently attractive to them they’ve got to take care of looks. Naturally, not all these guys take well to new demands on their appearances, fitness level and behavior. Which is why some men have decided to be rather particular about how they are treated in a relationship – they don’t want to be trophy husbands.

For years, women have been fighting to be treated as equals. But now that they’ve got what they want, it seems that they are starting to make the same mistakes that men did…such as claiming “ownership” over their partners, dictating what they must do and how they should behave in order to stay in a relationship with them. Don’t do that.

Fix It #5 Bedroom Positions

It used to be, he says: “Now, bend over…” But now…she says: “Now, go lower…” When women become powerful as men, women are more likely to act like men in bed, that is, to take control and actively seek pleasure. Although this movement has been slow and has only just begun, women are more willing to take responsibility for sex, initiate it, and choosing specific sexual activities such as wider variety of acts.

Your new assertiveness is threatening men’s traditional role as the dominant partner during sex. But for some men, this threat may register subconsciously at other levels of the relationship – they may feel that their power base, whether real or imagined, in the relationship as a whole is under threat, too. Add to the pressure to consistently deliver the fabled “multi-orgasms” and you see why men are apt to feel a little nervous when faced with a sexually demanding woman. It’s not that men’s don’t like it, mind. It’s just a little confusing: They’re grappling with learning to take instructions instead of just giving them. The complete shift in responsibility can alarm less-than prepared men.

To fix the problem, the best way is don’t hog the Director’s Chair. Share the responsibility of your sexual fulfillment between the two of you. This can work by either taking turns as the dominant partner each time you have sex, or by working towards a happy medium of partnership that involves making suggestions instead of giving instructions. You can move from ‘You do this and I’ll do this’ to ‘Shall we try this?’ That way, you’ll stimulate ideas and keep it interesting. You might try and fail but you’ll be happy with the process and the results as both of you are working together.

And that should be more than enough reason to give this power sharing process a go.

find the best solution to save the relation. Why? Why most of the relationship that was built because of loves never ends with good ending & happiness? Most of it happens to the married couples and some of them just ignore it. Is it because of modern lifestyles or our peoples already used to the divorce which means nothing to the society? There’re lot of reasons given by few couples that facing this problems saying that maybe there’s no more chemistry between them or married too fast or too young causing the divorces.

Nowadays, it very common to hear cheating spouses. And who’s to blame? And maybe you also face the same problem with or without your consciousness. Were there any signs shows that your partner turns over you? Of course you can see the sign if you’re not the one who cheat, right? So, how about it? What are you going to do? Whether they showed signs or not is inconsequential. Like anyone who has been hit with an unpleasant truth, you keep asking yourself one question: Why? And why lots of people out they still want to do it? And why even though you can save your relationship, you choose not to.

Marriage Fail #1 I Deserve Someone Better

Some people never appreciate a little thing happen in their life & always asking for more. “I want this, I want that… you not there whenever I need you… you never listen when I talking to you…or you never pay much attention whenever I need it…” Lastly, “Only after all the difficulty we’ve been went through together, I’m sorry; I only realize that you’re actually not the right person for me.” Do you ever ask your partner about your need? Do you ever improve your communication? Do you spend enough time with your partner? When you start to think he not good enough for you or neglected your need, no matter what or how he do to please you, you also still feel like you’re not getting the loves / needs you deserve.

When the communication start to breakdown & you doesn’t care about him anymore, you try to find someone else which you might think understand you better than him. Telling yourself a new person is caring and understands your need at the early stage of the relationship is not something special or something you believe can last forever because he just guest your needs & desires is all well & good but what happens when their fortune-telling skills come up short? Then they move onto someone else still using the same excuse; “no one understands them like (fill in blank) does”. Blaaaaa..blaa…..never ending story & if you not changing your attitude you’ll never find someone but you’ll lost all of them & the happiness.

Marriage Fail #2 I Need More Pleasure & Satisfaction

Many couples at the early stage of relationship full with passion & love seems appear endless. As time goes by, with a busy work, environment & people around you, the connection between you & your partner slowdown slowly without you realized there’s changes in your routine as the communication also become cool off. The love & lush once burning like fire guiding your love but once you deny the present of isolated acid rain shower on it without do anything, it will become heavy and when you start to realized, of course nothing much you can do to save it from getting wet.

As alternative, you look elsewhere to find that fire going again. You might find it, but without making the commitment to build a solid foundation, it will only be a matter of time before you start searching all over again. May be before you decide to leave your partner & plan to start new relationship, it’s better to think deeply & make a right decision without regret it in future. The best way is try to find the solution with your partner; discuss & find the cause of the problem & improve by concentrating at each part where you’ve been neglected before. With pray & love that already born between both of you will bring you to the good ending. At least you try rather than didn’t do anything, right?

Marriage Fail #3 I Can Do What I Want

This type of attitude upon happened to working couples where the communication is very less and each person is successful in their career where when they do something wrong which they think challenging themselves without knowledgeable by their partner especially at the work area or other country making them feel exhilaration and successfully. You think that if he can do whatever he wants, I also can. Because when suspiciousness comes in between couples, sometimes they try to avoid it and don’t want to discuss because of ego & selfishness. To have an affair which you think is other alternative whenever you need somebody other than you partner to give you more pleasure & calming sensation wherever your couple is not there when you need him.

In fact when the stakes are higher and the consequences of getting caught are more severe, this seems to motivate people even more to take the plunge. You know it is wrong but you still want to do it; you feel guilty but you continue the affairs; you suspecting your partner know about it but you keep silence; If all these happen to you, you need to renew yourself & if you still want to enjoy your life & want to make sin… you can continue it… but don’t involves your innocent partner.

Marriage Fail #4 This is What I Want

First, ask yourself what are you going to do if you’re your partner, the victim & your partner is you, the actor the one who first start playing the game & you don’t know what game it is? However, human have a selfish attitude when it comes to own exhilaration. One principle for them: “I don’t care what people say! This is what I want!” Of course, it’s not a weird thing or wrong to get or have what you want. How you can deny yourself the pleasure of someone new and attractive? (Although you know it’s wrong) “Why not I try? I’m not doing anything wrong as long as I not get caught.” Well, humans’ ego is bigger than sea, whether their partner finds out is a moot point. Their ego says go for it and they always do what their ego tells them. Is that what you really want? Sometimes, you should stop using your mind to think but use your heart that will make you become more human.

Marriage Fail #5 I Need New Life / Environment

Are you just come out from the prison because of drug addicts? Of course, not right? Then why you still need new life / environment since you already have it. You have a complete family: Spouse, children, home, car, money, career…… You think you’re not happy. Feel like something missing in your life? Then, what is it? Are you ever tried to find what makes you feel like that? No. Why? Because you think that whatever uneasy or uncomfortable feeling that you have is because of your partner. You think that only he/she responsible to whatever happen to your relationship and you have nothing to do with it.

Do you ever ask yourself why all this things happen to you? Do you ever try to discuss with your spouse on what you feel? If all this things you never do, you totally go to the wrong road out of your scope as a family man / woman. Where is your responsibility as a husband / wife? After many years of happy marriage, you suddenly feel that you need some changes and decide to turn over your partner by having someone else in your life. Sometimes, you need changes in your life, but it doesn’t mean to find someone else but you need to see from positive perspective first by start to find the problem, discuss with your partner, find the solution, try everything to overcome the problem & evaluate the result before you decide to find the comfortable outside the house.

There’s variety reason or excuses why people cheat in their relationship but to scratch the surface will take many years. As alternative, you can probably put the five mentioned above at the top of the list. None of this makes it okay but you have to face or deal in the real world. Infidelity exists; always has, always will. Accepting that fact will guarantee you are not caught off guard by any unpleasant surprises which may occur.

Before he even knew she ever existed, it had been dead clear that Zelleger’s shy character Dorothy, was devoted to the fast-talking self-centred Jerry. But in falling so fast and hard was she setting herself up for disappointment? It’s a question that could well be posed to Tom Cruise i real life. In his whirlwind romance with Katie Holmes, he has behaved like a love struck puppy, declaring his love for the 26-year-old actress an Oprah only a month after they started dating. a few weeks later the couple were engaged. soon after, they were expecting a child and now they’re married.

The sheer speed of Cruise’s relationship has set tongue’s wagging. It is really possible to fall in love that fast? Is it wise? Is the intensity sustainable? And when love moves at such lightning speed is there emotional fall-out down the track? “There’s this myth that if you meet someone and it’s the real thing you should be love-struck immediately and feel you can’t live without that person,” says relationship counsellor, Allegra Tripodi. “But rushing a relationship can cause lots of problems. It can prompt you to make bed decisions, misread signals and exaggerate feelings. It can also lead you to give more than you receive or create an impression that you’re just very keen. In the long-term, taking a romance too fast could result in you being let down, used or mistreated and ending up nursing a broken heart.” 

To make sure you don’t get burned you need to put the brakes on your emotions when you’ve barely met a guy and within one night you’re thinking, “It’s the real deal”. Stop. Take a breath. Now don’t call him or talk about him (at least for the next few milliseconds). Don’t let yourself have one more “when we move in together/get engaged/declare our love” kind a thought until you’ve asked yourself the following key questions:   

“Stop planning the wedding dress and his & her bathrobes when you’re barely had one date.”

Q #1 Am I Rushing Too Much?

Are you worried this guy isn’t really that keen on you and might be distracted by another woman if you don’t make your claim on him right away? Or has it been so long between relationships that you don’t want to hold back now that you’ve finally found a man who pushes all the right buttons? If you tend to fall in love every other week with any guy who chats to you or glances in your direction, it’s likely there’re deep-seated self-esteem problems driving your sense of urgency to ‘find love so fast.

“Maybe you don’t feel feel worthwhile without a man’s adoration so your sense of immediately stems from your need to be loved because it makes you feel valid and visible,” says Tripodi. “Maybe you’re so in love with the idea of being that you believe every new man you meet is the one you’ve been waiting for all your life – regardless of how little you really know him and whether or not he is truly compatible with you or not.”

Chances you’re tired of seeing all your friends snuggling up to their boyfriends and feeling like you’re the only one missing out. But if you push a relationship with a guy you barely know you may force things to the point where you miss out anyway – because you end wasting so much time on men who are not good relationship material in the first place. You used to fall in love with every guy you dated, go home and fantasize about how great it’d feel once you’re locked in each other’s arms all night. While you’re plotting your lives together in my mind you didn’t even know them well enough to be sure whether they took their coffee with milk and sugar. But after years of this pattern you realized you’re having one failed relationship after another because you were falling in love too quickly.

When you’re getting to know someone it takes time for their true character to shine through and you never waited that long. This meant there were lots of things about the guys you’re dating that you didn’t pick up – like one guy’s tendency to be super critical or another guy’s lake of personality – things that ultimately annoyed me but that you glossed over at the start. You guess you’re so keen on being in love that even a relationship with someone not quite right seemed better than having no relationship at all. But you were wrong – too rush into one ill-fated relationship after another won’t make feel better – it made you feel worse because you kept giving yourself over to love but it never seemed to last.  

Q #2 Is There Any Signs He’s Interested As You’re?

When you’re totally gone on a guy you’ve just met, your sense are in overdrive, but even though it’s a stretch to judge what’s going on objectively, you need to make that reality check. Better to be honest with yourself now than waste your energy planning to have babies with a guy who can’t even remember your name. So, the next time a boyfriend possibility is on the horizon, take a long, hard look at the signals he’s giving you.

Dos he keep looking your way when you run into his friends? Has he asked for your phone number or called you, even once? If you’ve already dated, how enthusiastic was he about hooking up again? If you have been dating exclusively for a few months, does he seem as into you as you are into him – or do you feel that the relationship is only working through all of your efforts to push it along? No matter how much you feel for this guy when he said you’re stunning beauty, the relationship won’t work if the vital signs are not good. Unless he’s keen, committed and demonstrative, it could be time to bail.    

Q #3 Are You Coming Too Strong?

This morning you send him 10 text messages. This afternoon you shot him a couple of emails. He’s so wonderful you can’t stop thinking about him and you want him to know you’re serious so that he gets serious about you. But be careful that in the process you don’t scare him off or send him running for cover.

“I met this great girl and I really wanted to go out with her,” says Ian, 26. “But after our first two dates she just became obsessed. She was testing me all day and ringing me on my mobile just to see what I was doing. I felt suffocated. she was saying stuff about me that was very flattering but that she couldn’t really mean because she didn’t know me that well. In the end the speed at which she fell for me scared me off not just because I felt overwhelmed but because she had this fantasy of a fairy-tale romance and I was secondary to that. In fact, I could have been any guy – what she really wanted was just to be able to say she was ‘in love’. I broke it off after a month and though I’m sure I did the right thing it was really sad – she was great girl who was just trying too hard.”

If you fall in love as quickly as you sneeze, you probably think that having a boyfriend will cure everything you you don’t like about yourself and your life. Gained a bit of weight? It won’t matter if someone loves you. Hate your job? If you’ll find love have things outside of work to focus on. Dislike your flatmate? Well, you get the picture. Trouble is,, this puts a lot of pressure on each guy you meet. It create a false incentive for you to fall in love over and over becasue you think that will bring you instant happiness.

“In light of this expectation, every relationship takes on mythic proportions as something that’ll transform your life, meet you every need and make your world perfect overnight,” says one of my friends. “So instead of just experiencing a natural high in the company of a man who attracts you, the need to be with him becomes all-consuming. You want it to work so badly that you fall in love with him willingly, hanging on his every word and thinking about him 24/7. And instead of letting the relationships take its natural course, you hasten things along by declaring you love him. You go to ridiculous lengths to bump into him, find out what he things of you and try to force him to love you back. Deep down whats driving this behavior is a huge fear that he won’t love you as much as you love him or that he’ll lose interest in you very fast.”  

Q #4 Can He Be Trusted?

If he the kind of guy who everyone thinks is decent and reliable or have you heard gossip that he’s a bit of a player? Does he call when he’s running late, apologize if he says something tactless or pay you back like he said he would because doesn’t have enough money for his share of the meal? It’s easy to overlook the little things when you’re head over heels about someone new, but it’s the little things which are big signposts indicating whether or not he’s worthy of your love.

So before you go telling him what a hot lover he is, how much you’ve waited for someone like him and how you think about him all day, make the call on whether or not he can be trusted with that info. Will he use it to manipulate you to get what he wants from the relationship or will he compliment you right back because it’s clear that he thinks you’re a fantastic girls?

If you’ve done most of the legwork in this romance it may ne hard to figure out if he is genuinely smitten with you or just going along for the ride. Ask your friends what they think, elicit some comments on him from his friends and see what response you get – it will be clear whether you adoration of him is something he reciprocates or totally misplaced.

Q #5 Is He Sweet Talking Me?

Your eyes are beautiful, your breasts are perfect and he just can’t stop looking at you. Not only has he flattered you with all these compliments, but he said them on the first night you met. Later, when he kissed you, it was long and hard. You felt completely carried away with with passion. On both dates you’ve melted in his company and he’s made you feel protected and idolized. Flattering? You bet – but are you sure he’s for real? It’s easy to fall i love with a guy who keeps putting his arm around you and showering you with compliments.

His attention may make you feel desirable, but is he genuine or spinning you a line? When women rush it and don’t take the time to see the true dynamics of a relationship they often end up getting hurt,” says Hallwood. “It took me a long time to realize that I fell instantly for any guy who paid me the slightest bit of attention,” says Marie, 25. If a guy was really laying on the compliments I was a total sucker for it because I wanted to believe every word he said. I’d rush to exchange numbers, rush into having sex with him and push to see him again as often as possible.

“My urgency was very much about wanting to feel the headiness of love before I got to know the guy. Once I did know about wanting to feel the headiness of love before I got to know the guy. One I did know more about most boyfriends I’d often start to see that they weren’t anything like the fantasy man I’d built them up to be in my mind? My habit of discussing each new love interest as ‘the one’ was making me blind to what I really needed to look for – not a man who fed me clichés about love, but a man who was sincere, communicative and happy to be with me for the long haul. So, I started to go-slow policy with every new guy I met.”

“At first it was hard to hold back and not expressing my lover verbally or physically felt like torture. But in the long term it was so much better when I stopped getting all gushy over a guy after just two dates and took my time, and found not  only that I could think more clearly but that I didn’t get hurt nearly as much because I started being more perceptive in my choices about men. By taking things slower, I didn’t have unrealistic expectations that every date was ultimately heading to a walk down the aisle. I also found it was much easier to discern when a guy was just trying to sweet talk me to get me into bed or when he really did thank that we’d made a connection.”

Q #6 Are You Rushing Things 

There’s a big difference between being swept up on a wave of romance and letting it completely wash you away. “When you’re swept up you feel great but see things clearly; when you’re swept away you feel out of control,” says Hallwood. “What you need to remember is this – if the guy you like is a great as you think and as interested as you hope, than he’s not going anywhere – if he likes you he will want to get to know you better and encourage the relationship to develop and grow. So take your time and enjoy the wonderful, heady process of getting to know each other – there will be plenty of time for saying ‘I Love You’ and ‘I Do’ down the track.”    

Secrets #1 Sense of Humor

It seems so  simple, but being able to laugh together can get you through even the most mortifying moments – public fights, bedroom bloopers, even Ben Stiller-esque meetings with the in-laws. and if you’re honest, you’re agree that the best moments spent in bed aren’t perfecting some organism tantric sex position, but lying there together  on weekends chatting and laughing about the week you’ve had. Priceless. And it’s not only improve the communication but at the same time tighten the internal emotion between you too. You can talk about what you both want in future or plan where you want to go for the next holiday.  

Secret #2 Little Gestures

Growing up, at least once a week, he come back home with a bar of almond-covered chocolates for you; it was your favorites. It’s a small thing but for both of you it’s shows  a deep feeling of appreciation. It’s the way how he want you to know that he cares and remember you. He bought it for you because he knew that you loves it, and it could make you smile. He didn’t care if it made you put on few kilos, all he knew that it will made you happy. Mum & Dad constantly do the little things for each other when they things no one watching. He help Mum washing plates after dinner and  tease her here and there… Mum mad and punish him to wash all the plates. Dad smiles, he knew Mum appreciate his help. Then they will watch movie together and it’s time for Mum to fight back Dad, she change the TV channels which made Dad arghhhh….well, Mum knew and quickly make a drink for Dad..his favorite drinks. Well, sometimes knowing what your partner needs could improve the relationship and make it alive all the time. Saying good morning when wake up in the morning and good night when you go to bed or send a SMS to him saying I Love You is some of little things that could save your relationship. These things might come thick and fast when you’re in the honeymoon period of a relationship, but when you’ve been together for years, these little acts make a big difference.  

Secret #3 Personal Space

Sometimes, you can’t live in each other’s pocket. You should have your own lives and so do him. It doesn’t meaning you leave apart or don’t care about each other doing, but by having your own lives, own friends, own interests will make you both more fulfill and rewarding. Being apart once a while is a good things where you can test your faithfulness, trust and loves. Not many couples that can stay apart from each other with faith or trust and keep living in happiness and peaceful. But with consistent practice by starting it from heading to different function or having lunch with friends instead of with him will create trust in the relationship. You can’t keep people on a leash, you’ve got to have trust. Being comfortable doing your own thing without reporting to your partner all the time makes the time spent together much more rewarding.

Secret #4 The Ability To Spend Hours Together  

The definition of true intimacy? Being comfortable enough in each other’s company to not say a word. Sitting at home on the couch with hangovers watching TV, backpacking through a foreign country; spending hours in the car on a road trip…… These moments are often the greatest test of any relationship. Ask yourself: Can you make decisions without wanting to kill each other? Are you capable of compromise? And, most importantly, how do you deal when something goes wrong? Because, when you’re tired in a confined space with no one else to buffer the situation and pushed to the limit, you’ve got your own personal D.day. Whether you’re ready or not, you’ll have in insight into how you’ll react to life’s bigger challenges.

Secret #5 Fight Rules

Everyone fights. That’s a given. What you need are guidelines, a list of unwritten rules on what’s fair and what isn’t. They vary from couple to couple but, generally, it’s a matter of not bringing up past mistakes when they’ve been dealt with and forgiven. Or not comparing each other to exes or family members. Something along the lines of “You sound just like your mother” is hitting below the belt. One couple I know have a rule that they never sleep on a fight. Another friend says she and her boyfriend have agreed to never give each other the silent treatment. These are all healthy arrangements, according to relationship expert Dr Leonard Felder, author of Wake Up or Break Up. “Also, no nasty remarks about anyone’s looks or jobs,” warns Dr Felder. “Even if you feel like ‘saying something hurtful because your partner has already said something to upset you, don’t got there. Take a ‘time out’ to gather your thoughts.”

Secret #6 A No-Rail Sex Position

When you first hook up, there’s always a period of wild, passionate, crazy, tear-your-clothes-off-and-don’t-get-out-of-bed-all-weekend sex. Why? It’s all about learning each other’s likes in the bedroom, trying different positions to see what  fits and spending endless hours being attentive to show your new partner what a great lover you are. But when the euphoric phase turns to routine, you need a couple of killer moves guaranteed to get each other off. You both work long hours and you get tired. sometimes you don’t have the energy to do the full-blown sex-goddess routine, but there the advantages to being that familiar and comfortable with each other. He knows what presses your buttons, so the odd quickie still satisfied both your appetites mid-week.

Secret #7 Attraction Beyond the Mirror

Sure the, my aforementioned must-have man checklist helps from an initial attraction, but that’s just a pretty cover to get me to open up a book and start reading. Let’s face it, neither of you are going to look the same five, 10 or 20 years down the tract. So, there has to be something more than just physical attraction. Having been married for 38 years, perhaps, my mum puts it best: Dad’s got grey hair and he wears his pants a bit higher than he did when we first met, but he’s still the same person,” she says.  

Secret #8 A Life-Changing Experience

Losing a job, having a business fail, one of you falling ill, the death of a family member….You wouldn’t wish these upon anyone, but they’re all facts of life. Going through something like this requires support and seeing each other at your absolute lowest point. You can’t help but bond in these distressing situations and, even if it tests the relationship, if you pull through, it definitely makes you stronger. Hillary and her partner suffered one the saddest experiences possible when they lost a child. “It was devastating. we were both completely shattered,’ she says. “You grieve with each other, but there’s no way you support. It made our relationship stronger and now I know we can make it through anything.”  

Secret #9 Belief In the Person

I once had a boyfriend who all my friends & family – me included -  thought I’d end up marrying. Then he had a career crisis. Even though it was his problem, it ended up being the catalyst for our break-up.  I was angry at him, thinking he was being immature and self-centered. The truth is, I didn’t have faith in his ability to get what he was aiming for in the work front. I never said it to his though – I probably didn’t realize it myself at the time – but he obviously sensed it. We all make mistakes. We’re emotional, sometimes our judgment is a little off. But in times of crisis, it’s vital to have a genuine belief in your partner, faith in their decency and abilities. And if you don’t really believe in them, why are you together in the first place?

Secret #10 Keeping Secret   

Keeping secrets is a big no-no, right? A diary, old love letters, a stash of money to spend on Gucci heels you know he’ll think are too expensive…. These are the kind of secrets that are okay top keep. “
You have too,” says Penny*, who has a weakness for erotic fiction that her boyfriend of five years knows nothing about. “It’s my guilty little pleasure, and no one knowing isn’t hurting anyone,” she says. “I’d never keep secret about the important stuff, but something like this is perfectly time. Having a little chunk of privacy ensures that you don’t feel stifled in a relationship. When you’re together for the long term, it gets harder to work out where one of you ends and the other begins. Self-identity is one method of keeping sane and happy. And if you’re not happy with yourself, you can’t really expect anyone else to be.        

Dating Sinners #1 Pride

It’s ok to be proud of yourself…sometimes, but not all the time especially when it’s a time when you meet new guy and trying to impress him about yourself. Nothing wrong if you want to talk about yourself and everything you had been done that make you so proud of yourself but there were no always ME in every conversation as it will make your partner bored and feel that there’s only your life….and how about him? Give him a chance to talk about himself. Ask him a question, a life he have, what he want and what he going to do. Give some compliment whenever necessary, but don’t go too much as you will make him feel uncomfortable. Avoid taking too much time talking about yourself or your life only but bring him into the conversation. Make the meet for both of you and not only you. Talk about yourself but trying to attract his attention by asking for his opinion..It could be good.

“I love to be with a brainy and confident lady, but when her comings and goings are the topic of every conversation, and she shows no interest in my life, then I just give her the boot,” says Brandon, a brown-eyed cutie. His friend Ryan concurs, I don’t like a girl who is self-absorbed and thinks she is all that, narcissism is such a turn-off.

When it comes to men, it’s important for women to ask questions about him and show a genuine interest in his life. Men like to feel special; the more often he feels it, the more often he’ll return the gesture.

Dating Sinners #2 Gluttony

Women are born to be loved and they can spend and give the whole life to a men she think she with love with. But how about giving a whole life and love to the wrong man? Some of woman looking for a man that can give them everything they want without thinking of lasting relationship just because of the promise  a guy give to them. Then a woman will dream of a family, children and a loving husband which is only the dream that never come true because of wrong selection of the man where this type of desperate woman only looking for guy that can love her, step over her, and a woman does not push back until it’s too late and there’s no turning back.

Woman always do a bad selection of boyfriend just because of love without realizing that the attitude of gluttony become a magnet for men who’re not interested in a serious relationship. Most of woman mistake is dating a married guy and dream of getting married with a devoted, having babies, but paradoxically gets involved with the wrong men. Women in love never realize that dating a married guy is a losing proposition. They always promise to leave their wife, but never do!

Lots of girl are guilty of gluttony. They doom their love lives by giving their heart to the wrong type either married men or guys who are commitment-phobic. These women pursue hopeless matches or abusive relationships, and no amount of friend or family interaction and advice seems to help. They set themselves up for pain and suffering by tolerating and even encouraging, bad boy behavior. You will never find happiness and true love if you’re glutton. Here’s your new mantra: I deserve better, and watch Thelma and Louise for girl-power inspiration.

Dating Sinners #3 Avarice

Avarice is greediness, and you probably know a girl or two who is greedy. No, no, we don’t mean greedy in the sense of desire for money, but greedy for attention. Most of girl feel that the attraction on them only can be seen by guy if they do something different that can show their advantage and attract other people around her. However, too much of action that attract others attention sometimes can make men turn off. You flirting with other man in front of him and don’t care about his feeling of course can make him think that you’re not serious in relationship. Reveal too much part of the body while partying and not concern about his opinion will make him think that he’s not important to you and you also don’t care if he leaving you.

Even if you want to get attention from your partner, you couldn’t do something that can make him bored and worst get fed up of your overacting attitude. Greedy of being everyone’s attention will make you forget who you really are and sometimes you can lose your own consideration. You could hurt yourself, your partner, family and people around you. And when you’re to obsess about everyone’s attention you don’t realize that you had done something that actually really humiliating. Ask yourself: “What would I think if he was acting the way I am now?” If you don’t like the answer then it’s time to change direction.

Dating Sinners #4 Lust

It seems weird when girl wanting the sex at earlier stage of relationship more than guy do. And of course it can be freaking too. You might be a very modern woman and live with very high class of living life… and of course for you make a first step before a guy do is normal… but do you ever think what he would think with your very fast response…on the second date? It could be shock to him. He might be just start to knowing you, enjoying the time with you and could be looking for love in you… And you spoil the night where he want to say something special to you. Some guy says, “I like to get know a woman first, take my time, before we get horizontal. If a woman thinks she will win my heart by having sex on the first few dates, she is deadly wrong. I might continue seeing her for the sex, but I certainly won’t take the relationship seriously.” Another guy confessed, “When a girl rushes to get intimate wit me early in the relationship, I can’t help but wonder if she quick to jump in the sack with every guy she meets.”

Women also sabotage a good relationship by lusting after other men, often because of their insecurity. “I was stunned, I felt so betrayed,” reveals a frustrated guy after he caught his girlfriend kissing a stranger at a bar. They had been dating for more than a year, and were even talking of marriage. The guy broke off the relationship right away. Her sin of lust had irrevocably doomed their relationship. Being conscious of who you are acting are always important pieces of the dating puzzle. Build a friendship first, then move it into the bedroom. If you move between the sheets too soon, prepare for a one-night stand – or one week – if you’re lucky.

Dating Sinners #5 Envy

Woman is famous with jealousy and of course this is one of the great thing they can do all the time. It’s a gift which make women tend to be more sensitive, more awareness and being alert all the time and men was gift with their softness to be tackled and melted by other women.  The green eye of envy, jealousy, is the cause of many failed romances. Most of the time, it has nothing to do with the reality of the situation. Most experts agree that jealousy is generally a symptom of low-self-esteem and insecurity. Is the green-eyed monster playing havoc with your love life?

Some women, a carrier women especially the one that really successful in their carrier having problem on their relationship. Some of them very good on managing their job but when it comes to the man in their life, everything upside down and can’t think straight. It’s not wrong to felt jealous but make it in right time and right way. You don’t have to overact to tell him that you’re jealous but you can face him and speak up your mind. Ask him about your prejudice and tell him what you feel and what you want to avoid the continues misunderstanding. Tell him that you’re concern about the relationship and his feeling is the most important to you and if he wants to have a talk you’re always there. you can try this to attract his attention so that he can open the mouth and talk. He might reveal his problem and of course at least he feel you’re always there  for him.

If you’re suspect your man is unfaithful, ask him once. If you feel you need to ask again don’t – either believe him or break up with him. That easy! You can make a right decision for your future and don’t let him make a decision because of your wrong thought and ended dump by him.

Dating Sinners #6 Sloth

Many women stop working at our relationships once they are snag a man. She’s petite and perky and has not had a lasting romance in ages, and she has no idea why her relationships are painfully brief. As the relationship progress, you kind of forget about how to manage yourself anymore. You only think about him, to love him, make he happy but you forget about yourself… to maintain your appearance, the same person he ever fall in love with. You losing yourself over time and you never realize it. Do you think he not care? Do you he didn’t see your transformation from the hot girl to a messy hair girl? Why didn’t you spend sometimes for yourself, nurture and make sure you’re still the same person he ever know.

It might be a very simple and little things and shouldn’t be a big issue that could break your relationship, but always remember that men always want a woman who know how to take care of herself which mean always ready for anything. If you’re one of these women, stop nurturing the remote control and nurture your man – with love and all the naughty , fun and spontaneous things you used to do.

Dating Sinners #7 Anger

At the beginning of the relationship, men are watching for sign of trouble to come. If you’re always up for a fight, and bitching is your usual mode of operation, you’ll no longer be girlfriend material. Guys are generally conflict-averse, and any sign that you will go psycho on him in the future will send him running. If at the first date you already show your anger by bitching others and bad-mouthing everyone, he already knew that you’re not the right choice as one day all the things will turn back to him. No matter how beautiful or smart you’re, when it comes to bad mouth attitude non of the guy on the earth really like it.

Out-of-control anger is not sexy, especially on a woman in a pretty dress and kitten heels trying impress a man. Deal with anger in a calm tone and use conviction in your voice -  you’ll be considered strong and assertive instead of bitchy. So, if you have been committing the dating sins listed here and sabotaging your chances for everlasting romance, now is the time to evaluate your actions and start fresh on the road to a successful, long-lasting relationship.

Clinical social worker, Ira Kaufman, who focus on working with people in improving the quality of their relationships, advices: “In my line of work with men and women, I have them focus on their life goals. If a woman’s are to be in secure, healthy, committed relationship, her behavior must reflect that. Feelings such as pride, lust, anger, only push or pull her off-track. Remember,behavior leads and feelings follow – not the other way around.”