Jun

23

Get Back Together: Give Up Trying to Control Your Loved One

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By Bill Mann

One of the biggest relationship mistakes people make is trying to control your loved one. What makes this an especially big problem is that we do it unconsciously, when we think we are helping and supporting them. Before you can get back together and stay together, you need to look for signs of a controlling relationship and deal with this issue.

Some people blatantly try to control their loved ones, bossing them around, telling them what to do, and so on. If you do that, you just need to stop it. Nobody with a healthy mind will get back together with you for long, if you blatantly push them around and try to control them.

With that out of the way, let’’s talk about the unconscious ways people try to control their loved one and how they make it hard to get back together and stay together. You may be doing these things without even knowing it, and without any conscious desire to control your loved one. You may think you are helping them when you'’re actually controlling them. So what are some signs of a controlling relationship, specifically this kind of unconscious one?

1. When you are with your loved one you expect something from them. Instead of accepting them as they are and accepting whatever love and affection they may wish to share at the moment, you want something from them. At the crassest level, a guy takes his woman to her favorite restaurant for dinner, then is disappointed that she goes to sleep when they get home. He had expectations that he would be rewarded with sex in exchange for a nice dinner. Unconsciously, he was trying to get her to give him what he wanted in exchange for dinner. He was trying to control her, even if he didn'’t realize it. This mistake is especially common when you are trying to get back together, as the stakes are so high in your mind.

When you have unconscious motives like this, it may not be obvious to either you or your loved one. But they will affect the way the two of you interact (and make it much harder to get back together). At some level, your expectations will affect the way you talk and act when you are with them. And at some level, they will know that you have expectations, that your gifts or attention, or time are not given freely and unconditionally. They'’ll sense that they have to pay for these good things somehow. That’’s not the basis for a healthy, happy relationship. These signs of a controlling relationship will get picked up and may make it impossible to get back together.

2. You help your loved one too much. Everyone needs and appreciates help from time to time. But everyone needs to be responsible for their own life too. If you are always helping your loved one, always doing things they could do themselves, always solving their problems for them, you are making them dependent on you. And when someone is dependent on you, you control them, whether that was your intention or not. Even if you do get back together, this dependency will cause problems in the future.

So how do you avoid trying to control your loved one? You need to be able to give to them freely without expectation of anything in return. You need to have faith in them and give them space and the opportunity to do for themselves, to solve their own problems, control their own lives. To do so, you'’ll need to learn to be more aware of your own motivations and the implications of what you do when you are with your loved one. If you want to get back together and stay together, this is crucial.

If you can banish all signs of a controlling relationship from future interactions with your loved one, you have an excellent chance to get back together.

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May

23

How To Get My Ex Back - Getting Back With Your Ex

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By Allan Lim

Break up can be extremely devastating, even for a person with a very strong personality. If you have just broken up, perhaps you are feeling troubled by this question, “How to get my ex back when he/she doesn'’t want to respond to my call?”

If you are facing this problem, do not worry excessively. You are definitely not the only one who has to face this problem. In this article, let us discuss what you can do. Take not that what you will be learning apply to members of both gender. For simplicity, I will use “she” throughout the rest of this article.

If you have been calling your ex many times and she does not want to answer your call, it usually means one thing. She is obviously trying to avoid you. This kind of behavior can be quite normal especially when both of you have just broken up.

But you may ask, why does she want to avoid me? Well, there can be several reasons. Perhaps both of you have jut broken up, so even if she answers your call, she does not know what she is gong to say to you. So she wants to avoid this kind of situation.

So by calling her more often is probably not going to make her answer your call. Furthermore, you definitely don'’t want to be perceived as a needy person by calling too often.

So, how to get my ex back? What can I do?

What you can do is to send her a short note instead. Here is what you can write in the letter. Of course, you will want to modify it or lengthened the letter to suit your situation.

Hey Your Girlfriend’’s Name,

I agree and respect your decision for initiating the break up. Perhaps, it is really the best thing for both of us now. I believe I must have done things that irritate you for the past few weeks or months and I am very sorry about that.

Perhaps it is best for us not to meet up for the time being. This will be a good time period for us to cool down and to think things through. Maybe we can meet up after that for a cup of coffee.

Your Name

Remember, you do not want to call her too often. By not doing that, you will not reduce your chances of getting back with your ex.

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May

13

A Wedding In A Tight Budget

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By Jerry Leung

It is not easy to plan for a wedding if you have a relatively tight budget. You will need to find ways to save money in this case. However, planning for a wedding with a tight budget does not mean that you cannot have an elegant wedding.

In fact, there are a lot of ways to save money. Taking the wedding favor as an example, you can consider sending some DIY favors to your guests. It will save you a lot of money. If you can bake, you can bake some mini cakes yourself and they will be perfect wedding favors. As a matter of fact this can be a lot more meaningful than purchasing some really expensive favors. At the end of the day you are making the wedding favor yourself and your effort cannot be replaced by an expensive item.

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Apr

4

You Know Your Spouse Is Cheating But Why?

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By Daryl Campbell

A cheating spouse is all too common. Were there signs? Maybe. The way they would be on the phone but get very quiet when you entered the room. Their body language at times seemed unfamiliar to what you had become accustomed to. Maybe they even became a little more argumentative when there was no reason for it. Whether they showed signs or not is inconsequential. Like anyone who has been hit with an unpleasant truth, you keep asking yourself one question: why?

According to statistics compiled by the online website Infidelity Facts, 57% of all men confess to cheating on their partner regardless of whether it is dating or marriage. And what about women? We usually are told that women are more faithful in their relationships. The answer is yes they are but not by much. In the same study, 54% of women admitted to being unfaithful. This may explain why the divorce rate in the U.S. now stands at 53%. Of course there are many causes why marriages end but there is no doubt that infidelity is a prime force. So why do people do it?

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Oct

22

Tips When Choosing Your Wedding Photography Videography

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By MIKE SELVON

A marriage is a whirlwind of activity, and that’s why there is one aspect to consider in wedding photography: Videography.

By having professional wedding photographers commemorate your special day on film, you will be able to relax after all the activity is over and watch your special day unfold again.

A marriage video will let you see all the little things that happened while you and your new spouse were being the perfect hosts to a reception hall full of guests.

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Jul

13

Eight Tips for Purging the Pre-Wedding Stress

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By Jeanette Shinn

The last several weeks before the wedding can be the most stressful time period of the entire wedding planning process. Sure, the big items are all taken care of. The dress has been ordered, as have the flowers, photography, and the cake. But there are a ton of details that need to be wrapped up. Things like figuring out the seating plan at the reception. Like picking out your wedding cake jewelry or your bridesmaids gifts. And do not forget arranging someone to pick up aunt Georgina at the airport after your cousin bailed on you.

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Jun

29

Dating for Shy Singles

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By Lee Blackspur

Shyness can make dating very difficult. Sometimes shy people are mistakenly taken for arrogant, unfriendly or some other negative observation. That is why it is very important for people who are shy to work on tips and tricks to help them out.

There are several reasons for shy individuals ranging from genetical inclination to low self esteem or other problems. No matter what the issue there are positive steps that can be taken to ensure a more confident and successful dating experience.

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Jun

25

Get Rid Of First Date Jitters

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By Jim Brown

Everybody wants to make a good impression most especially on a first date. Being out of the dating scene for quite some time can make some of us apprehensive on going on a date. Most people naturally get nervous as thoughts on whether your date will turn out to be a good one always goes through the mind.

Butterflies on our stomach and first date jitters can be get rid of if we just relax. While saying it is totally way easier than actually doing it, relaxing will help you focus on getting to know more about your date and having a great time.

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Jun

20

7 Easy Steps To Create True and Lasting Happiness In Life!

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By Tenzin Pemo

Everyone wants to have a happier life, but very few know how to go about it in order to make it a reality. It is not as difficult as you may think. For a lot of us, we have our home life, school or work, and our relationships. These are some key aspects as there are steps you can take in reach area of your life to have more happiness.

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May

28

Erasing The Fear Of Single Adults Through The Use Of Totally Free Online Dating Services

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By T J Madigan

One of the fears of most single adults is staying single forever. Some of them do not really hate being single. It is only that they get envious every time they see people of their age, living a happy life with their partner or companion.

Some of these singles would even ask themselves if there is something wrong with them. Others are even suspicious about their looks. Because of these, more singles have developed low self-esteem. They do not trust what they have. And ultimately, they stop hoping that they’ll be happy somehow and someday.

Luckily, there are generous ways that keep on coming in order to prove to these singles that life is worth living and that everybody deserves to be happy.

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