Understanding types of relationships - How to make it works?
Do you think he’s going to be The One and you want that relationships will last forever? But all you seem to do is row all the time. He ends up storming off and you end up in tears. It’s not only love that can bring to everlasting relationship; to make it work, both couple need to understand what kind of relationships they have and how they want it to be. Other than understanding and good communications, relationships also need balance to control the way it works. John Gottman, a psychologist, has spent more than 20 years studying marriages. He believes it’s not how often you argue that sets the tone for a relationship, but whether you achieve the right balance of positives (like hugging and compliment each other) and negatives (like insulting each other). So, how do you want your relationship going to be?
John Gottman discovered three different relationships: Volatile, validating and avoidant. All three worked. And all of them conformed to a specific formula: Five positives for every negative or known as 5:1 code. So, maybe you fight all the time – a negative. That’s okay as long as you balance it out with the five positives, like remembering to tell him that you love him. It’s normal to have fight or arguing sometimes, but if there was no balance to these negatives, there’s no way you can maintain and keep your relationship on the track. And remember; LOVE is never enough to fulfilling relationship with staying power, it needs more than that: Never let negatives over positives because there’s not much hope to standing for. To discover how to crack the 5:1 code, just read on…and find out whether your relationship going to be everlasting or at the end. Good luck! (Continue Reading…)




